"What's wrong with having a fling on the side anyway?" It's called CHEATING. Her husband is deployed, not dead or cheating on her so it's wrong. Just tell the guy that you're not interested because you still love your husband very much. Also say it was wrong for him to lie to his family and, now he has to tell them the truth.

I agree with JackDupp

she probably has already been dating him and wants opinons about it.

Pfft , yeah right! i would tell him to btfo!

if I got cheated on while in deployment, I wouldn't be a happy guy. let's just say someone would be paid a visit by both my baseball bat and I. cheating is one of the ultimate sins for me

go along with it, then "dump" his crazy desperate ass in front of his parents.

don't go along with it. Flat out tell him a) you're married, b) you won't tolerate him telling people lies even if it is his family because next he'll be giving you a ring, c) he needs to get help and that by doing this he's jeopardizing your friendship, d) if he refuses to be honest with himself and his parents, you should tell his parents that he's nuts, and finally e) if he is still acting crazy and won't leave you alone you should tell your husband everything that has happened, everything that you've done to make this man see that you are not interested, and discuss the possibility of changing your phone number and any other means this man has of contacting you.

Kindly remind your friend that your husband is enlisted.

Clearly you should tell him no. However, I do know a woman whose husband explicitly informed her that she could date while he was deployed. Her boyfriend is even going to be running a DnD campaign for her husband and his friends when the husband gets back. It's ridiculously messed up.

ydi for thinking a guy just wants to be "friends"