Date night

By feminist - 17/06/2009 15:25 - Canada

Today, I got into a heated argument at a restaurant with a guy I am seeing because he refused to let me pay for the bill and I thought it was sexist. When he finally agreed, I gave the waiter my card, only to have him return a minute later telling me it was declined. FML
I agree, your life sucks 13 252
You deserved it 77 693

Same thing different taste

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organismal 0

girl, it's just polite, classy, traditional. get over yourself it's nothing to get in a heated argument about, either. come on, if you offer to pay half and he declines, accept graciously. it makes you seem like less of a bitch.

britches 0

Wow...there's really no need to get into a heated argument about it.

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simplicityx3 0
RedEks 0

Is anyone else surprised that the woman with the Queer studies degree hasn't shown up? She seems to show up in every other FML that isn't even remotely related to lesbians, feminism or some garbage about how hetero sex is rape........FINALLY when a FML is up her alley....she doesn't even show. I feel a bit disappointed to be quite honest.

A man trying to be polite does not mean he's sexist. It means he's a gentleman. So you would rather he not pay for anything? Believe me you could do a lot worse than him.

You got in to an argument over that? He was trying to make a kind offer and there's nothing wrong with that. Yeah, I can understand if you'd want to pay your own half but seriously? Getting in to a heated argument? Now you just look like an idiot.

AssOf2009 0

Wow, it's not sexism; it's called manners, you bitch.

Ibeapirate 0

You're an idiot. If a guy wants to treat you, let him. You can always even it out later. Be grateful that there's a guy who wants to treat you nicely. Making a scene and calling his gesture sexist is no way to thank him. Grow up.

lmmmr 0

Yes. Finally someone with some sense.

happygoluckyhh 0

He doesn't sound like any guy I would want to go out with. It drives me up the wall when people are hypicrates (sorry...can't spell it, I'm only 12.) he accused you of being sexiest when, in fact, women can do more and are smarter than men. Dump him...fast. The credit card decline was just unlucky! Sorry! FYL.

trojan124 0

I get so sick of people saying, "YDI for not managing your money" on declined card FMLs. My card has been declined before when I have sufficent funds... I've had magnetization issues. But OP, YDI. Who ARGUES? I don't really see it as a feminist issue. It could be the other way around and I'd feel the same. Typically my conversation goes like this when the bill comes: Me: *hands over money* Friend (male or female, doesn't matter): Nah, I've got it. Me: *still holding money out* Are you sure? Other person: Yeah, don't worry about it Me: *putting money back in purse* Thank you so much! I still do feel awkward but I would never put up a fight...