FYL, because you live in Nova Scotia. I'm from there. It's a terrible place. As to something relevant, I don't hate feminism, but I do like free food. I don't understand why people have trouble accepting free things to the point that a 'heated argument' would ensue.

You should really learn who it is you're hating before you decide to hate them. I seriously doubt that you hate people just because they support social and financial equality. I hate ignorant people.

Why is everyone assuming that the card was declined due to balance issues? The only times I've ever known anyone in my family to have cards declined have been cases where card readers haven't worked correctly, or systems have had glitches. We never consider a card being declined as being embarrassing, as we always know that it is the fault of the system, and explain this when necessary (our bankers would not decline valid charges just because we don't have enough money in a particular account). Besides, there are always cases where one cannot know that one has an low balance: just two days ago, incompetent staff at a hotel charged several thousand dollars to a card of mine that they were authorized only to use for minor amenities (instead of charging the correct card...), resulting in that account being several thousand dollars overdrawn. While this didn't result in charges later that day being declined, even if it had, it would have hardly have been my fault. That said, I was taught that except in particular circumstances, I should *always* offer to pay for restaurants, not just on dates but when dining with others in general. There is the expectation that others will also offer, and that over several dinners most people will end up paying to their ability, but I always have to offer, even if I know that I will not and should not pay (eg, when visiting someone with the unspoken understanding that I pay for everything when they visit me, and they pay for everything when I visit them).

LOL@193

I totally would have only paid for my half after all that. After all, she's a resourceful, intelligent, well-educated, take-charge feminist, right? I wouldn't want to be all sexist by implying that she couldn't think of a way out of this little conundrum. So, if she had to blow the waiter to avoid having the cops show up, then that (by the OP's standards) would be less sexist than if I paid, right? God, American women suck.

I'm all for woman-power, but crazed feminists drive me insane! He was being chivalrous! You're lucky to have a guy that insists on paying! So many losers won't even look at the check. You could've caved, it's not that big of a deal. YDI for being partially insane.

thats what you get, bitch. accept the notion of chivalry he is displaying and take a free goddamn meal. be glad that he isn't a hoodrat retard and can actually afford to take you out to dinner

I like this =) she posted this thinking she would get sympathy but BOOM!!! 200 people put her in her place.

Just another reason all feminists are douchebags. The guy is trying to be nice and you have to act like a prick. After your card got declined I would have left you there. YDI

well, i'm an american woman, and i don't get why it's sexist to pay for a woman. i think it's flattering, though i don't mind footing my half of the bill either, or taking turns paying. if the OP is so concerned about feminism, i hope she takes her passion and applies it to real causes, like teaching women to read or helping them start businesses in their communities. i feel like women need to take initiative to ensure that the feminist movement stops being molehilled into things like this. not all inequality is sexism! in this case it's just generosity.