Experience

By Anonymous - 27/08/2009 04:12 - United States

Today, my boss asked me how my parents' divorce affected me as a child. This is a sensitive subject, but I thought he was trying to connect with me so I told him how much it hurt. Turns out he wants to leave his wife and wanted to know if his kids would turn out "messed up" because of it. FML
I agree, your life sucks 42 738
You deserved it 3 059

Same thing different taste

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At least he cares how his kids are going to turn out due to his actions. Not an FML.

deliapearl 0

not a FML but still a good story. perhaps u just saved his children some serious grief.

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hbgoddard 0

Hey, at least he cared what happened to his kids, right?

Wait... what's the FML here? If he had to ask you, it's not like he thought you were messed up. I don't see why your boss confiding in you is a bad thing. Obviously you're on his good side.

orlandogirl4life 11

Think how messed up you'd be if they stayed together just for your sake. Yes it sucks, yes it's painful, but it's better than knowing you're the only reason your parents are together and they can'ty stand each other.

Thank you, somebody who gets it. Really, we studied this in Psychology. Often times, staying together "because of how the kids will feel" just makes shit a lot worse. I know that from experience.

Okay, so what I'M gathering from this FML is that if you'd known that's what the boss was going to ask, that you would've lied and told him, "Nah, children aren't affected by divorce," and then he would have broken his kids' hearts because of you? Maybe I didn't understand the FML, but you said your parents were divorced... You know what it's like to hear a six year old kid cry in the middle of the night, saying she wants to kill herself because Daddy left... Why would you lie to him? Or maybe I just suck at interpreting things. Either way, I DON'T see how this is an FML.

The kids would get serious issues from living in a house where the parents hate each other. If a divorce is handled maturely, the kids shouldn't have too many issues.

bigcrazymike 6

OP: Divorces suck, this is a FML as he wanted to see if they were messed up like her, supposedly.

ugh I really don't get the deal about kids getting so worked up about their parents getting divorced. My parents obviously hate each other and will get divorced in the future... and to be honest, I'm 100% OK with that. It's not a big deal. They're not dying. Get over it. I mean yeah, if one moves farther away or if it's sudden, I understand how that's upsetting. But my gosh, deal with it and move on. I don't understand how than can mess someone up.

Oh, and it is worse if your parents stay together for the sake of the kids. The kids are obviously going to catch that their parents aren't happy some time or other, and frankly, it gets quite annoying when you see the bickering going on back and forth constantly. Also as someone else mentioned, it's shit to feel like you're the only reason your parents are unhappy and still together.

DevilsLttlSister 0

You were lucky to have parents who divorced over circumstances that was a direct benefit to everyone- the separation of two people who hated each other is obviously 100% beneficial to every person involved in that situation. You really can't use your personal experience as a gague with which to judge all children whose parents are going through divorce. That's just stupid and ignorant and self-absorbed.

alliecat273 0

number 66 that is actually hurtful to those of us who have divorced parents. honestly you have no right to express your opinion on how you should feel with divorced if you've never even gone through it before

DevilsLttlSister 0

It was an FML because she had to relive that in a work environment and, thinking the boss' reasons for asking were in *some* way related to getting closer to her, it turned out to be entirely for his own benefit, and the answer to his specific question is a big DUH.