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How does she deserve this? Her grandpa just died. Today. His grandmother died six years ago. It was selfish of him to change the subject so that it was about him. I hope he was trying to help, but it didn't. It's not what she needs right now. Her boyfriend has had six years to mourn. I'm not saying that he can't still be sad about it, but how do we know he was closer to his grandmother than she was to her grandfather? It's common courtesy to be there for your significant other when they come to you for comfort. Don't go "well that sucks, but my life sucks WORSE! See?!"
Ironically, isn't that exactly what she's doing?
This is not an fml. You expected comfort from him, why should he not be able to open up to you and expect the same in return? Just because he is male does not mean he cannot have feelings.
so he should listend to you cry and help you at rough times, but its not okay if he wants you to listend and help him? seems like a relly functional relationship...glad im not ur boyfriend!
OP is a right bitch. 'Shut the **** up, my loss is worse than yours'.
No one should ever, ever, ever compare the pain of two or more people. The time elapsed since a trauma is moot; only the depth and significance of a loss matters, and no one except perhaps (possibly, maayybe) the victim can gauge that. Sucks for the OP that apparently she didn't get the consolation she wanted. But none of us has any right to tear down the bf. OP, I hope you both get to work through both your losses together. Sounds like you both have some pain to work through.
You understand that your 'FML' is something you experienced instead of him, right? You were about to do the same
Cry more. You wanted attention and now you're mad 'cause you didn't get it? Obviously your boyfriend is having harder time than you if he's the one crying.
Losing someone six years ago doesn't make it any better for some people. O know your loved one's death was recent, but you did call him to basically do the same thing to him. Sounds a little self-centered to me.
Sounds like he lacks a sense of what's appropriate and when. Sorry for your loss OP.
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You add the 'who died six years ago' as if that changes how much it sucks to lose someone. Sometimes my friends' facebook statuses say something about their grandmas/grandpas/other close family dying, and I get really upset thinking about my grandma that died in a car accident 2 years ago. And anytime anyone tries to talk about a car accident they were in, I get upset as well. Some people are sensitive and it's possible that your boyfriend was really close to his grandma, or that he bottled up his emotions after her death and has a hard time dealing with them now. It sucks that you didn't exactly get the comfort you wanted, but at least you have someone who can relate to you and help you. When my boyfriend and I met, we got to talking about the car accident I was in (the one my grandma died in) within the first week of dating - it was only 7 months after it happened and I started getting kind of upset talking about it. My not-yet-boyfriend then told me that he had lost his grandpa earlier in that year - it helped me to know know that I now knew someone who had been through what I had been through in some sense. Try to be understanding and arrange a day for your boyfriend and yourself to get together and talk about memories and such - I'm sure it will be helpful for both of you. I'm very sorry for your loss. I suggest finding a grief group - they're really helpful sometimes.
so? I know somebody who's grandma died when they were 4 (they're 22 now) and they are still sad sometimes. So its ok for you to cry but not for him? And let me guess: you weren't sad anymore?