there is an actual legal ground for you to get an anullment at this point, you wont owe her anything, and her promise of wait till marriage was a lie

Nobody deserves this. I'm never gonna wait till "after marriage".

Yeah lots of red flags. Some people just don't have a sexual appetite so if you can't live out the rest of your life without sex I would listen to the main stream here and file for an annulment.

get out of that marriage any way you can. you will be miserable for the rest of your life if you stay with her. if you're religious, you can still divorce on sexual immorality grounds

She doesn’t have the heart to show you her dick. Give her time, she’s probably shy. I’d get an annulment

You know, she may just be scared. Need to look at her upbringing and figure out how she was raised and what she was taught about sex. (get the book, "His Needs - Her needs" and both of you go through it. she may have been raised to believe sex is evil and only for making babies. Alternatively she may have been sexually abused and either is traumatized or is afraid to tell you she is not as pure as she led you to believe. No matter what, try seeking some professional help. Do not throw away a relationship over this. you two swore to work things out and not pop-smoke at the first bump in the road.

What a great scam! You and your roommate conned all of your friends and family into throwing a big party, buying you gifts from your wish list and sending you on a vacation. Sounds like your scheme went off without a hitch.

Are you sure she isn’t a dude? I mean, definitely a red flag. I’ve read stories where guys have gotten married only to find out later the she was a he?

If you haven't consummated the marriage, you can get an annulment. And it sounds like that may be the best route to take. Something isn't right.