"went at her like a spider monkey" is something I now hope to slip into conversation

she said and I quote "ask me if I fcking care".. very comforting words aren't they?

Men grieve differently. Unlike women where they immediately look to their friends and spouses for support, men prefer to try and deal with it themselves first, then open up about it. He just wanted time to let the news sink in, and she freaked. No one deserves that.

But he DID tell her what was going on, when he was ready/able to. He obviously wasn't ready to talk about it to anyone right away, and she has no right to be mad at him for the way he grieves. Some people need time alone after a death, and others need to talk about it immediately - neither way is wrong. When I got the news that my Granddad died, I stayed home from class that morning because I couldn't handle being around people just then. I didn't tell anyone other than my roommates because I knew I would start crying again. Talking about it was the absolute last thing I wanted to do, for a while. Other people might handle the same situation differently, but part of being a good boyfriend/girlfriend means being supportive and respectful while your SO grieves, not making it all about yourself. I hope OP just forgot to include the "ex." He's having a hard enough time without having that toxic mess attached to him.

Really? If someone needs time after something dramatic, like losing someone close, they deserve to take some time. Even if they don't tell people right away. His girlfriend, instead of being sympathetic, she acted like an inconsiderate bitch. Are you REALLY going to take her side and say that it's okay? Cause it's really not.

Are serious #39? how would you feel if you're boyfriend or girlfriend said the exact same thing like that girl said , and how would you feel? Will you still say, "I see where the person coming from? "

Maybe what 39 means isn't that OP should have told the whole story straight away, but that he should have told her that he would be out of touch for the day. Just disappearing on your loved one is ******* harsh too. For all you know, she had been panicking all day thinking he had an accident or so.

#165 Op hadn't disappeared nearly long enough to make that a reasonable assumption and even if he was the way she reacted to the news is completely inexcusable.