Really? Who else do they have to blame for it? Are you really going to use the 'marriage comes from both sides' excuse? That is incredibly lame. Yes, a marriage comes from both sides, but if the marriage is bad enough for her to cheat, she should have at the very least talked to her husband first. Either fix it or end it. There is only ONE person who choose to cheat and that is her. So she carries all the blame for this.

I don't think it's so cut and dry though, honestly very very few things in life are that black and white. We don't know if she did talk to him previously, or if she's already talking divorce and dad not wanting too. Yes she totally deserves all the blame for not handling the situation well, but I highly doubt it's as simple as this. People do make mistakes. My mum cheated on my dad (which she had discussed her unhappiness with the marriage and he ignored it) she finally confessed, they had a melt down, worked through it and are still together doing much much better now. Both of my parents were in the wrong one for cheating and one for totally ignoring the others feelings to begin with.. things happen and in relationships (aside from abusive ones) it's almost never just one sided. I would never in a million years call my mum a bitch though, despite disagreeing greatly with how she handled it.

Oh look, someone with no morals and no brain.

I'm with you on this one, #63

thank god I'm not the only one:)

#63 actually makes a good point. I think people are forgetting that this is OPs mother. this isn't some random woman. this woman gave this kid life. just because he chose to call her a bitch from a place of anger and confusion doesn't give everyone else the right to tell him to ditch her. honestly OPs mom needs to apologize to OP and then handle the situation with her husband in private. my bf is a child of divorce and he hated his mother because of her infidelity. but I would never allow him to say such things about her. and good parents would refrain from putting each other down no matter the reason. if my mother, who was beaten by my brothers father, can refrain from shit talking him in front of my brother then I expect everyone is capable of acting civil.

So what you're telling us is that calling the mom a bitch is ****** up (even though it's more of an understatement if anything) but her cheating on her husband is not? I don't give a crap who you are if you're cheating on someone you're the lowest form of scum, and it is OP's business because it affects them just the same. The only ****** up thing here is you defending the Mom.

Except for one thing. It ISN'T just their business. What happens between two parents will affect everyone in the family, not just the two of them. So op has every right to judge his mother for cheating on her husband.

Can't agree more. But in the first shock someone might feel the need for stronger language to cope with this feelings. I feel so sorry for the dad crying in the car and if it was my father I might feel this way, too. But hopefully OP learns to cope with things as you put it in words.