By Nile - 08/12/2015 17:21 - Netherlands - Amsterdam

Today, I asked my girlfriend to marry me. She said no because she doesn't want to be tied down for the rest of her life. We already have 3 children, a mortgage, and joint bank accounts. How much more tied down could we possibly get? FML
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themysteriousfox 18

Maybe that's her way of saying she might want out soon.. Watch out OP.

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whassallt26 13

Maybe she should of made that clear before creating a family and life with you? Just a thought.

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Eyeslick 33

Or maybe #29 they just feel no need to put a title on something that's already there.

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turtle_darkness 17

Maybe she just doesn't want anything on paper.. I know a few couples that has no problems until the marriage license came around.

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phreaker913 21

marriage is like the sucker bet in a casino. sometimes it pays off, but usually you just wind up wasting your money

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KidYouFuckedOver 10

1. why the **** do you have 3 kids 2. a joint bank account 3. a mortgage and still aren't married 4. your pull out game is weak

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danihammer 4

Is there some kind of legal/financial issue she's not telling you about?

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lovebug177 21

Sounds like another way of saying she doesn't plan on being around for the long haul

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GhostFox 33

Sounds like she has some deeply ingrained negative associations with the concept of legal marriage, or marriage in general. There's also the fact that, when you get married, it's a lot harder to get out of a relationship if it goes south. Maybe she just doesn't want to be married because Though, the fact you waited until you had three children, a mortgage, and a joint bank account before asking if marriage was even on the table is a bit disturbing. I mean, if you had asked about it and she said she wasn't, you would have been able to walk away or been able to adjust to the idea of not being her spouse. Plus, how does marriage never come up in a serious discussion in at the at least 27 month time period it would take to have three biological children? Or even nine months.

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latchhooker 17

That's what I was trying to get at with my comment about living through or watching family being abused. The abuser was fine, nice, and showed no signs of what was to come while they were dating. They changed after the marriage. Living through this or watching it as children as one parent beat up another has turned several people I know against marriage because to them, in their own minds, no matter how untrue it might be for them, marriage = abuse. It was really hard for the abused ones to get away from the abuser since they were married. I'm not saying that this is the case for the person who posted this and they will abuse their wife, but it has happened to several people I know and they now are basically afraid to get married in case it happens again. More than one of the people I know that have gone through this have lived together for years but are still afraid to make it official. It's basically PTSD.

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Seabass_Chan 33

Yeah. The **** is the point of getting married these days anyways? I know my kind are all excited that we're allowed now, but I've never seen the appeal. They're already as together as they could possibly be. Who knows, maybe OP's girlfriend thinks marriage is overrated, or has had a bad experience in the past and feels like they've already got a good thing going. To some people, marriage (or engagement, for that matter) just adds unnecessary pressure to a happy relationship. If they're not religious, a wedding would really only do one thing: take away money that could be otherwise spent on said three children and mortgage.

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sporty061200r 8

Yea she does not want to be tied down to you... Your going to end up being her paycheck for support

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