If the op doesn't like orange, it doesn't really matter what anyone thinks of his room. Blue is my favourite colour, but I'm not going to "surprise" him by painting his room my favourite colour. That would be like me going "Oh honey, I don't really like the books, games or movies you bought recently.... so I took them back to the store and exchanged them for better ones! I also tore up all the packaging and receipts so you can't take them back. Aren't you pleased?!?! I like surprises, don't you?"

So, if your boyfriend exchanged your personal property for things he liked instead, you'd say "Thanks so much for your thought and hard work? You're so wonderful to decide what I want for me!" "If mama ain't happy, nobody's happy" = why would you want to be in a relationship with somebody whose that selfish?

Relax. It's a saying.. In all relationships there are compromises and he never said anywhere that they did or did not discuss colors. It's not like she exchanged his season passes to his favorite team for opera tickets! It's paint! It can be changed to suit either or both of them.

#85, It's a saying about wives and mothers. OP's girlfriend hasn't made it to that level of acceptance. And if she keeps up the unilateral decision-making, she's less likely to make it.

I would say actually having communication in a relationship is a compromise, instead of doing whatever the hell you wanted without really considering the other person's feelings. If op wanted orange paint he would have purchased it for himself.

The OP can re-paint and quit whining...GF did what she did thinking OP would be ok, or she's a controlling bitch. Either way, it's on him... Communication goes both ways, is it too hard to say, " Please use this paint, babe?" or "What were you thinking!?" Communication is not a compromise, it is the foundation for a relationship. He obviously has not figured that out or he would have been talking to her about it, not us. Plus, he never really commented that he didn't like it...

If she is shown the previously purchased paint and still needs to be told "please use this paint babe, don't go out and exchange it for a different colour without even asking me" to stop her going out and exchanging it for a colour she likes without even asking, then she's a complete moron. If you have a boyfriend, do you have to constantly remind him not to hawk your jewellery and buy other things instead without even asking you? And if he does do that, I can only hope you'll just say "babe, I'd rather you didn't do that" because getting upset about that sort of thing counts as "bitching and whining" according to you. Also, it's on FML. If he liked the colour, it would not be on FML, would it?

Nobody made her do it, she offered to do it for him. Read the FML, please. You make the girlfriend even worse by making her seem like an spiteful, passive aggressive nightmare instead of just inconsiderate.

It also makes women seem like they can't be trusted. "Whatever they say, never believe them!"