Sounds like my step-sister's first husband. He turned out to be a control freak, ended up cheating on her and abusing her mentally & physically. He thinks his heart is in the right place which is pretty pathetic. A real man should let his wife/girlfriend take charge of their own lives and be there for them when they need it. You're so much better and stronger without him.

what ever happened to love??

That's a textbook case of manipulation : 1- Convince you to quit your job to be dependent on him 2- Lying to you to get you to agree 3- I am guessing here, but most likely the next step was making it feel like it was your fault somehow. Followed by something to make you feel like less of a person, thereafter trying to play the sympathy card by making you feel sorry for him. He would've tried to hammer down the fact that there was "no other way" or some BS like that. Get out of this relationship immediately. I doubt the boss was the only one. I'm sorry OP, truth hurts, but this man is an absolute piece of shit not worth the effort to have his grave pissed on. Please contact me in private OP - I have some reading for you to do.

Plot twist: the boss is a guy.

I hope you don't believe his reason.

Not only did he cheat on you, but he made you quit your job. That sounds like emotional abuse

He "made," you quit your job?