By Anonymous - 04/05/2016 14:15 - United Kingdom - Saint Austell

Today, I found out that my daughter not only has a boyfriend, but that they're trying for a baby. She's barely 15. FML
I agree, your life sucks 20 774
You deserved it 2 879

Same thing different taste

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DeadxManxWalking 27

teach her how it is having a baby, wake her up every two hours at night.

IridianShadow 20

Even better, show her videos of women giving birth. Should make her realize she isn't ready.

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Maybe slip a birthcontrol pill into her food from now on

When I was 14 my best friend at the time moved in with my parents and I because she was kicked out for having a baby. She stayed in my room and I raised the child for almost two years. Best. Birth. Control. Ever. I never wanted to go through that again. Finding a doll or a baby she is forced to care for would probably be best. Good luck!

Ahahahahah this made my day sorry op that is ridiculous lol

Go have her watch the Japanese drama "14 year old mother". Watching that drama could change her mind.

bet you live in Camborne! if so, surprised she is waiting this long! half the girls I knew had their first at 14!

spike her food with birth control pills

As I understand UK health laws, in regards to minors, you can have her put on a form of birth control regardless of her desires until she turns 18. So, first thing I would do in her shoes is drag her to somewhere and make them put her on a form of birth control that she can't undo or sabotage. Second would be to sit her down and ask why she thinks she wants a baby. Generally speaking, when young people want offspring of their own, it is because they want someone who will love them unconditionally, want to bind the father of the child to them, or otherwise have some sort of emotional issue, with the pregnancy seeking being a coping mechanism. Depending on her answer, you may need to get her counseling. Or you can take her to a counselor about the issue, if you don't want to bother trying to interact with her yourself. Third, get her the experience of raising a baby. Preferably a newborn. Maybe even one with health issues, since people never take the idea of the child being ill into account with pregnancies. If there is a foster system or similar nearby, ask if they would let her work there. If not, ask around for relatives and friends who have children to see if they will let her watch their kids, under supervision. Make her handle things as much as possible- make it clear that while you will keep her from hurting the child, you aren't going to help her anymore than you would if she follows up on her plan somehow. Fourth, sit her down and have her draw out what her budget and schedule would be like with a baby. Then thrown in random issues with costs and time consumption. Neither she or her boyfriend has money? Make it clear that you won't find her journey into madness. Fifth, show her the ramifications of what she is trying to do. Both what it will do to her body physically, and the effects it will have on her socially. Show her the risks she would be taking during the pregnancy just by being pregnant at that age. Show her premature babies, babies with health issues, even stillborn. Show her infants who died due to poor care. I might sound like an ass, but this isn't something people should be gentle about. What OP's daughter is trying to do could have very real, very serious and very dangerous ramifications for both herself and another human being. Once she gets pregnant and past the line where the fetus legally becomes a human being, she isn't just messing with her life, but that of a child's. If she gets tired of taking care of them, it isn't like with a doll- she can't just throw the child away. She has to give the child up to join the tens of thousands of at-risk children in the foster system....or take more drastic measures that would tip her from 'irresponsible' to 'inhumane.' So, again, before anything else, get her a long term difficult to sabotage form of birth control, even if you have to drag her.

speakthylove 11

The human brain isn't fully developed until someone reaches their twenties. For this reason alone, teenagers shouldn't be procreating. They have no earthly idea how hard it would be to raise a child. Taking care of a baby isn't something a child should ever have to do. Please speak to your daughter's boyfriend's parents. They need to be informed. Your daughter immediately needs to be placed on birth control. And definitely not the pill form. I sincerely hope you succeed in parenting her properly before your child, ends up having a child of her own. Good luck!

OnlySkyrimStays 11

She's in the UK so she might not have even got ANY sex-ed. It's not required by law so some schools refuse to put it on the curriculum. Mainly as PSHE (Personal, Social, Health Education - drugs, alcohol, and sex-ed) teachers are expensive to train in PSHE, it's expensive to get things for PSHE classes (those drug+effects displays, samples and examples of different kinds of birth control, condoms and fake penises, etc.). At least that was the excuse my school gave. But I do know that sex-ed in the UK doesn't even recognise abstinence as a form of birth control. My little sister goes to a school where in sex-ed they told her "Abstinence does not work. When drunk, you have lowered inhibitions, and there are things out there called rapists."