*hug* Do what you can to establish healthy boundaries now. I'm serious. Read up on establishing healthy boundaries. Get yourself in to see a therapist to help you (look in to low-income ones if you are unable to afford much). Do everything you can to establish yourself outside of your parents. You are going to need this for yourself. Do not let your parents drag you into their drama. When they start - shut them down. Firmly establish that THEIR relationship woes between the two of them are just that - between the two of them. You will not pass on messages, you will not listen to the problems, you will not be their sounding board or therapist. If they have problems, they need to deal with it and you won't be involved, nor will your siblings. Then help your siblings establish those healthy boundaries if you can. Enlist your grandparents, aunts, uncles, whatever and whomever you can to ensure that your siblings aren't being used as emotional puppets for this drama. I'm sorry that both of your parents are sick, but that doesn't give them carte blanche to cheat (Dad) or even pull them into the drama (which is what almost always happens during a divorce, and this one sounds messy with the living 3 houses away thing. Divorces CAN be done right, but it takes work. Lots of work and healthy communication practices/skills. Learn them early and practice them often. I wish you and your family a lot of luck.

I'm glad you took the time to write that. I didn't learn that lesson until much later and even worse, when I finally put my foot down, I was accused of being the bad guy not just by a parent, but by my other siblings too. I'm kicked to the curb until I give that parent what they want (unlimited attention and access to my kid). Yeah ... not happening.

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