Parents choose to have their children and paying for them is their responsibility. Not the other way around.

I understand they spend money, but they chose to **** and make babies. unfortunately, babies cost a lot but that comes with the territory. I would be reluctant too if I had a feeling the money was going to a bad place. not all parents are good. just because they made you doesn't make them a parent. don't talk like you know everything. I once stole $100 from my mom to give to my dad to cover travelling expenses because my mom kicked him out when he was visiting. he bought beer with that and pawned my video game systems the next day. you can't trust people like that more than once. maybe op knew the mom had a bad habit which is why they were reluctant.

Some parents are incapable of sacrificing anything, though they'll sure make you think every grudgingly given "gift" cost them dearly. OP doesn't owe Mom anything, especially if Mom has a history of pulling this sort of guilt-tripping, which I'm guessing she does.

I always hate this reasoning, "well your parents supported/paid for you, so you should be grateful and do the same for them," or worse "because they financially support you they get to make the (sometimes unfair, baseless) rules and be completely controlling and invasive." Um no that isn't the way it works, they chose to have a child, that responsibility is on them. The kid has no choice in this matter and no control over it, so to say that they are now required or morally obligated to help their parents isn't right. Having a kid, and accepting parental responsibility, comes with financially supporting them. That's the law, parents are required to do this, if they don't, they go to jail, get their kids removed or at the very least fined. You don't get applause, respect or repayment for doing something you took responsibility for and are now expected to do. It would be like me demanding praise and reimbursement for obeying road signs and not speeding with my car. The kids, no matter what age, don't owe their parents anything, they are supposed to take care of them in this way, not the other way around. Also, just cause you do something for someone else, doesn't mean you should ever expect them to return the favour, is it nice, yes. But, in the context of childcare, you should be doing these things because you want to, not on the prospect that you could get something out of it later. I also find it funny and pretty hypocritical that when a child is over 18 and living with/supported by their parents they are constantly criticized being told to "get a job," "have some responsibility" or "move out if they don't like the way things are done," but when a capable parent is living off their children they don't get criticism and the kids are still told "well they supported you, time to return the favour."

What #35 said.

Its his mom. She should be a functioning adult. He gave her money and she handed it over to a scammer. She should have known better than that. Shes an adult and needs her son to pay the deposit on a place she likely did no research on?