By karmaplz - 23/02/2011 14:26 - United States
karmaplz tells us more.
I feel the need to clear up some of this discussion! First of all--thanks to all these anon. people for defending me. I honestly submitted this immediately after getting the phone call @ 8:30 am, never thinking it'd be posted. Secondly-- is he a bad guy? No. I'm sure if being a cop is what he wants to do, and has his heart in it, he'll do great at his job. As far as the disrespect: it got to a point where I wasn't valued as a person, and some very vulgar, vile, rude and hurtful things were said/done to me, that wouldn't have been done if I was respected for who I am. If I was seen as a human with a heart and feelings, these things wouldn't have been done. Can I say that this will never happen to another female? No. Do I think he's pure evil? No. Saying bad things would have been purely vengeful and ruined a potential career. Also, I wasn't listed a reference, they required names and phone numbers of "significant relationships"--- I was asked if there was ever an assault between us, and about his moral character. That's it. I've had a seriously great laugh over realizing this was actually posted, and loved reading all the comments. Thanks!
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ratard? you. are. a. RETARD. #205
you are just trying to get sympathy votes here. if it was such an FML for you, then u didn't have to feel obligated to say nice things. the fact that you did, just suck it up bitch, and stop whining. what did you expect us to say?? "awwww, what a nice girl....", "oh....it's that bastard's loss......", "you did the right thing, girl....". Forget it, you DB.
All I'm saying is : you didn't HAVE to. So ydi.
Aww! Ha now he knows what he's missing out on!
You shouldn't have said nice things...you deserve it
kudos to you for being honest. you are clearly the better person.
He's clearly your ex-boyfriend, a thing of the past, if not he would have been just "Boyfriend", no? There's a reason of why you guys broke up, and I'm rather sure it's not "our ways are separate", so you could have told the truth. After all, if everyone did what you did, then all the cops would be horrible and crime rate would increase.
just because a couple breaks up does not mean that either or just one of them is an evil person who deserves to have their dreams ruined. and just because someone went from boyfriend to ex doesn't mean they'll be a horrible police officer. you're an idiot.
There goes another disrespectful pig in the police force running the streets, good job!
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Why didn't you just tell them bad things?
As someone who knows a fair amount about the hiring process, you should have told them he was disrespectful. It is NOT grounds for disqualification, but it would give them a realistic idea about who he was. They would talk to him about it, but that doesn't mean they would DQ him. You should have been honest.