By karmaplz - 23/02/2011 14:26 - United States
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I feel the need to clear up some of this discussion! First of all--thanks to all these anon. people for defending me. I honestly submitted this immediately after getting the phone call @ 8:30 am, never thinking it'd be posted. Secondly-- is he a bad guy? No. I'm sure if being a cop is what he wants to do, and has his heart in it, he'll do great at his job. As far as the disrespect: it got to a point where I wasn't valued as a person, and some very vulgar, vile, rude and hurtful things were said/done to me, that wouldn't have been done if I was respected for who I am. If I was seen as a human with a heart and feelings, these things wouldn't have been done. Can I say that this will never happen to another female? No. Do I think he's pure evil? No. Saying bad things would have been purely vengeful and ruined a potential career. Also, I wasn't listed a reference, they required names and phone numbers of "significant relationships"--- I was asked if there was ever an assault between us, and about his moral character. That's it. I've had a seriously great laugh over realizing this was actually posted, and loved reading all the comments. Thanks!
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why didn't you just tell them you didn't think he was a good candidate then?
tuppencej777
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You didn't have to.
Griggy
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You're a nice person. You could've easily told them the negatives and ****** over his career.
kyrarox
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r u serious!?! I would have made him sound like a douche!!
leahouwinga
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he used you as a reference? did you agree to this? either way, if he's a disrespectful person I would have at least mentioned something about it.
Why is this a FML? You told the truth, of course. Some of it's good, and some of it is bad. Just be honest. What the police do with the info is their concern.
Really? You'd deliberately contribute to having disrespectful police officers hired and then bitch about it?? REALLY!?!?
um. say bad things. durr
you definitely didn't have to say nice things about him
That's some true damn loyalty right there. Hm. If I had to do that for my ex.. who's been a total dick to me.. (Hah I wish he'd put my number down. But there's no way in hell that'd happen..) I might just say I think he's immature, but I think he'd be able to control himself all the time at work. Hopefully not crack any offensive 4chan jokes though. But yes, you've got some damn loyalty and he should be ******* kissing your ass. Maybe one day he'll realize what he's done and what he had and got..
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Why didn't you just tell them bad things?
As someone who knows a fair amount about the hiring process, you should have told them he was disrespectful. It is NOT grounds for disqualification, but it would give them a realistic idea about who he was. They would talk to him about it, but that doesn't mean they would DQ him. You should have been honest.