By Anonymous - 19/04/2013 23:33 - Sweden - Ljungby

Today, I grounded my son after finding out that he's been bullying other kids at school. He got mad and screamed at me, calling me a "bastard". Instead of defending me, my wife got pissed and accused me of having taught our son to swear like that. I can never win. FML
I agree, your life sucks 53 145
You deserved it 6 039

Same thing different taste

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For some reason I was expecting this to end with him bullying you.

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oj101 33

It isn't the end of the world. Studies show that little kids who bully at a young age learn not to bully, and grow up quicker, becoming a nice person during high school and get good grades whilst people bullied young tend to become bullies themselves in high school and do badly in exams. Also, kids who have been good throughout their entire school life tend to be antisocial or niave (high achieving popular kids who are nice throughout school are a rare breed). You better nip this in the bud OP

Cite your bullshit please. I was bullied much of my life and I never became a bully myself. If anything, I've become one of the most insecure and broken people I know because I still have the voices ringing in my head. And much of the bullies who tormented me started when they were young and just continued to get worse.

oj101 33

#44 - Of course what I said isn't strictly 100% true for everyone as their circumstances are always different. I was just pointing out the general trends. I still said OP should nip this in the bud though.

I have no idea where you got this information, but most kids that were bullies in grade school are now still assholes or degenerates that are smoking pot as we speak. As for myself (and probably other people that were bullied), I lived with poor self-esteem and issues that followed it for years. And people that aren't jerks or degenerates tend to do much better in school.

Bullshit, I was bullied in middle school, and I never bullied anybody by high school or even had thought of bullying others. In fact, by high school, the bullying stopped because I learned to stand up for myself after 7th grade. Please go take your bullshit somewhere else.

perdix 29

Why would you need your wife to defend you from your kid?

LOL Perdix that wasn't really the point. She's more concerned about accusing her husband of supposedly teaching him to curse than her child being a bully. That's what he was pointing out, not the fact that his wife didn't defend him.

perdix 29

#24, actually, it looks as though the mom is siding with the manliest man in the house.

You're trying to do the right thing OP. Sooner or later your wife will realize it and your child will too when he's old enough to understand. Keep trying to do the right thing and everything'll work out! :) best of luck!

Looks like it's time to make him apologize to the kids he's been bullying.

Finally, a reasonable punishment! This combined with the loss of privileges and a continuous, strong moral commentary will provide the right balance to leave a lasting effect on anyone's mind. 5 stars!

Making kids apologize to the kid they're bullying doesn't do jackshit. I was bullied by this kid in 7th grade, we got into a fight, and the counselor made the kid apologize to me, and a few months later, he shows up in my neighborhood and starts being a jackass again. We got in another fight.

daydreamer244 13

Lol my mom always defends my brother too....moms and defending their sons...

Seek some professional help. If your wife can't realize how serious this is, things will only get worse.

You did the right thing. I wish more parents would punish their kids for being bullies.

Stick to your guns. You made the right choice. Women are hard to please.

Is it just me, or are more women these days generalizing women?

I couldn't stand when my mom use to tell me this but as an adult now I understand, tell your son do as I say not as I do.

no it does make me a hypocrite it just means that I was a teenager and didn't care or want to hear what my parents were saying however as I've matured now i understand what they meant because i wouldn't want my kids copying everything their father says but it does not mean I don't want them to listen to him.

If you don't want your kids acting like you, you should be a role model and not act the way you don't want your kids to act. Also, as a teenager, I just want to point out that I actually want to listen to lessons or discussions that my Mom tells me about morals so that I can try to start acting with those morals in mind and generally become a better person.

Sounds like your son learned how to bully from his mother. With two bullies in the house, you have your work cut out for you.