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I bet you didn't even explain to him why he shouldn't be doing that, you just freaked out, am i right? Then you told him parents who yelled at him some more and years later, he's gonna be just another American with fuc*ed up views of sexuality.
I bet you're just going to go on smugly assuming your bet was correct due to the absence of contrary confirmation.
Uh, last time I looked it was perfectly normal for a young child to be exploring their body, and it always has been, not just "these days". They don't know what sex is, and aren't doing it in a sexual way, so there's nothing wrong with it. OP should not have punished the child though. She should have called the parents and asked them to explain to their child when and where it is appropriate to do such things and why.
In my opinion, I think everybody is overreacting just a bit. Honestly, he might feel bad about doing it for a while but when he's older and his friends are doing it and talking about it, he'll realize he's not the only and that it's not a bad thing.
There is actually a study that has been out for years that's says girls and boys that are allowed to do this in the phallic stage and allowed to satisfy themselves emotionally and physically will be better off in the long run. This is especially true for young girls I they can satisfy their own needs thy won't put an emphasis on their partner making them feel "whole" or "loved" by having to find their self worth in another. The fact of the matter is that it's perfectly natural and it's something that should be explained not punished.
The phallic stage? No. It's not called the phallic stage. There are three stages - oral, anal and genital.
But it's Freud, and it's not really accurate anyway, so it doesn't matter... EDIT: And I'm pretty sure there are more than 3 stages...
Stop with this phallic stage Freudian bunk please. It suggests that the emotional period of the child's life is centered around the phallus, but it's not. Freud also coined the term "penis-envy", suggesting women feel inferior to men because they women don't have a penis. Really? Also, there's a difference between touching yourself in public and in private; the level of discretion required, of course.
The poor kid wasnt doing anything.sexual, its natural and you punished him/her for it?
50 I wouldn't say he shouldn't be punished they could be scolded and told if they were to do that it's on there own but I personally think its a bit weird for a PRE schooler maybe kindergarten but at least everyone was asleep :p
they don't! they are exploring, its not sexual to them
I feel sorry for the boy! Ok yes it's good to let him know doing this thing in public is a big no no!! But giving him a time out or a punishment could stay with him, In later life i mean,Like, if it happens again take him to the side away from the rest and just tell him that this is not nice for or something like that,but don't punish him before everyone!
Why would you put him in time out? Kids explore like that all the time, all they need is to be taught the distinction between the kind of play you do in public and the kind you keep for private. It really isn't difficult to do that. If you're in a position to help them learn the distinction, why wouldn't you talk to them so they understand instead of punishing them? Way to give them associations between sexuality and shame.
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