Please. Crossdressing =/= homosexuality. Some guys just have a fetish for it.

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Yes, because all gay people are riddled with HIV, which of course never affects heterosexuals. Anyway, to second various other comments, cross-dressing does not equal gay. Your comment displays two types of idiotic ignorance.

No, that's not true. Many transvestites are gay, but a transvestite is not a crossdresser. Your husband isn't gay. But if he looks better in your lingerie than you do, then you need to start getting in shape. Work out with him!

No it's drag queens that are gay. There's a distinct difference. Believe me, I know a few trannys.

Clearly you don't. Otherwise, you'd know that there's a difference between transsexuals and transvestites. A transvestite IS a cross-dresser (think Eddie Izzard, or Klinger from "MASH"). But a transsexual is someone who identifies with the gender opposite of that which they were born as. They may have had a surgery, or not (pre-op tranny). Transsexuals can either be male-to-female, or female-to-male, and most times do not identify as being "gay", because they feel they were born the wrong gender (i.e., a female who identifies as male and who is attracted to a female would not consider themselves to be lesbian, because as far as they are concerned, they are a male attracted to a female). A transvestite, however, may or may not identify as being gay. Some men may simply, as several have pointed out, like the feel of lace on their skin. Wearing a woman's underwear does not make a man gay. It's a fetish, like anything else. OP, your biggest concern should be the fact that he was hiding this from you. I'm not necessarily saying you need to embrace this (it's clear you're having some issues coming to grips with it), but realize that if he got caught this time, there's been lots of times he didn't get caught, and if you freak out on him because of this, he's just going to work harder to hide it from you, rather than actually stopping. It's a fetish, and it's something he feels compelled to explore; I'm sure if you think about it, you'll find some fantasy of yours that you want to explore, and yet you've not opened up to him, either. Maybe this is your chance.