At least she complimented you...

Yipes. First, find out if this is out-of-character and she just handles stress and change really, really badly (and was having an adverse reaction to meds, too....) If it's out-of-character, give her the benefit of the doubt and meet with her when she's her normal self. If it's in-character, talk to your husband BEFORE marriage about how to handle her. Go over it now. From the fact he was arguing with her, he might well know what she's like and totally have your back. But figure out before hand how to handle a lot of issues, and do it before the wedding. Otherwise, she just might decide to insult you when you are in your gown and ready to walk down the aisle in five minutes...asking if you couldn't find some style that covered your back fat, and did you know it made your butt look huge, and why didn't you go on a starvation diet to get down to size 2 for your wedding? So, cover it all NOW. Worst case AND best case scenarios. What do you do if she turns out to actually like you and is just concerned about your health and that of your family, but has terrible social skills to relate that concern for your well-being? Best of luck, and I REALLY hope it's a one-time event! Right now, it's a true FML. Sorry!!!!

Well, at least now you know where the stupid is going to come from.

ppfftt my parents are skinny and I'm fat, your future mother in law is wrong!

mothers in laws... they seem to think its a god given right to be bitches.

As long as they aren't unhinged cuntwaffles because of their paternal grandmother...

Different people have different comfort zones and ways of doing things, but I would never accept a proposal without getting to know my partner's family first. The (often ugly) truth is, when you get married, you're marrying your spouse's family as well as your spouse, so you have to consider whether these are people you want in your life.

I find it a bit odd that you became engaged before meeting his mom...but of course we don't know the whole story. and regardless, that's really ridiculous for her to say.

A lot of people keep saying how weird they find it that they got engaged before meeting the families. A lot of people don't live that close to their families in their adult lives and can't afford to take time off work and make a big potentially expensive trip to visit family. Or maybe his mom had a rule about not wanting to meet any girls unless they were planning to get married. My dad didn't even want me to really mention any guys I was dating until it'd been a while. Or maybe he's just not close to his family, my husband and I aren't. There's tons of reasons that she didn't meet her inlaws before the engagement. My husband and I see his mom about twice a year since she moved out of state, his dad at the holidays if their not fighting, my mom about once a month and my dad about every three to four months.

Ouch! That's soo rude :(