Some people can never be pleased no matter what you do. It sounds as if she already had her mind made up and comment ready.You did the right thing in trying to put the problems aside and try to get along. Be proud of that.

Been there. I cut off all contact with my mother 10 yrs ago ( at age 33), couldn't be happier or mentally happier. sucks that I must sneak around to visit my step-dad, but sometimes you must walk away to save your sanity.

Next time just buy her a roll of toilet paper and if she asks tell her it's for all the shit that comes out of her mouth.

What a nasty woman. She doesn't deserve a present, let alone to have a daughter. I hope next years Christmas is brighter for you and hopefully without her in it, if she is unwilling to forgive and move on from what ever incident caused you both to become indifferent to each other.

Don't mean to be mean but, mom sounds like a narcissistic bitch.

As someone who had this sort of relationship with literally every member of my family EXCEPT for my mother, allow me to say this: Nothing you do will ever be good enough for people like that, and you are better off without them. (For the record, my family is like that because I am more or less chronically ill due to a genetic illness and they spent 12 years accusing me of faking, being a hypochondriac, and being a drug addict. They basically hated me because I didn't fit in with their "totally a normal family" lie.)

Next year buy her a "toy" and tell her to go screw herself

I'd snatch that gift right back up and happily exclaim "MERRY CHRISTMAS ME"!!!

What was the present you have her?

I feel for you, OP. My mom told me once she would not accept anymore gifts from me unless I am married with children. Parents can be so immature, you wonder how they even raised kids.