what a bitch.. very inappropriate to keep talking to an ex...

There's this thing called "Marriage." You know where two people are together because they love one another. For one, I'm pretty god damn sure that any NORMAL woman or man would not enjoy the fact that an Ex is trying to contact the opposite. It is wrong and disrespectful to the partner. Two, OP has every right in the world to ask or tell his wife to block the mail from the ex. I'm sure if the wife were in his shoes she would ask or do the same. It's called jealousy. Not healthy in some ways for a relationship but it also shows the partner you care. Three, you incompetent morons who say the OP is a phsyco, controlling and crazy, you're all ******* ridiculous. You probably are not married, have been married nor ever will be married with that mind set. Get your 5th grade education bullshit out of here. Also, none of us know whether OP has asked before for her to block him, with that being said I damn well would of delivered plenty of ultimatums.

Never ever give a partner an ultimatum. Ever! It either ends hilariously like this, or with long term resentment. YDI.

Telling your wife what to do is probably why she said that

Shut up, you stupid bitch. He is not an abusive controlling husband, SHE is a faithless, selfish woman who doesn't deserve him!

YDI for being controlling. We need more information. Is she responding to them? Is she even READING them? Have you two discussed her getting them?

Good for you OP. You said you discussed it with her and she thought nothing wrong of it. If she is not respectful enough in your relationship to do something so trivial to her that would make you more comfortable than she really isn't going to be a strong partner for you for very long. Relationships are about give and take and respecting one another. If your discussions ended up leading to such an extreme ultimatum and she still wouldn't do this for you, then you deserve better.

You know what, good on ya, OP. You identified something that made you uncomfortable in a relationship and you had enough self-respect to ask for your wife to make a change in order to make you feel safer. It set her right up to show how incapable she is at having a mature relationship. My boyfriend, on the other hand, gets mad at me when I hang out with my platonic male friends, but knows that asking me not to have them is unreasonable, so he just sulks. He knows if he asked me to do anything that was reasonable, I'd do it! Ugh. Rant over.

You could try kicking his ass then sending your own romantic letters to her. Assert your dominance and mark your territory.

trying to force her into a decision ydi