By unfortunategeek - 23/12/2010 16:13 - United Kingdom

Today, I tried to contact my birth mother, who abandoned me when I was three weeks old. After months of tracing, I finally plucked up the courage to call her. She told me to "f*ck off and die". FML
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DahkLohd 4

Well, consider yourself lucky that she didn't raise you.

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Acousticpixie14 6

You said she abandoned you? If she abandoned you, not just gave you up, but ABANDONED you, then why did you even want to find her? I guess I can understand the morbid curiosity and wanting to meet your biological mother, but are you really surprised at her response if she ABANDONED you? That really really sucks for you, and I'm sorry, but you kinda walked right into that one.

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Terezi 0

Is it just me, or have I seen this FML before?

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brootalxkeni 0

well, if she abandoned you, why would you go out looking for her? you have the mother that raised you, that should be more that enough

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Flounder 2

To everyone who is or will be blaming the OP, shut the **** up because you have no clue what you're talking about. It is 100% natural to want to know where you come from, and if you're denying it you're a retard because what do you think religion is? An explanation of human origins. Anyone who's ever been abandoned by a parent wants to know about that part of their family, whether for questions about genetic health, heritage, or for questions they might have about themselves ("Everyone in my family loves The Beatles but me...does my real dad hate them too?") FML is full of judgmental morons who feel completely free to preach from the safety of their computers in their tiny, narrow little worlds, when what they really need to do is remember that they shit just like the rest of us.

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Angio113 10

Thank you for this! I agree completely. :)

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monnanon 13

Im sorry but i disagree, my father left before i was born and i've nver had any interest in finding him and when he did try to contact me i refused to see or speak to him. Why should they get a second chance? The only thing that man ever gave me is a genetic heart defect. A few of the relatives on that side have kept in touch so i suppose that cancels out the needing to know who i am thing. I do not need him to answer those questions. I am anticipating the "you might when you are older or have children" replies but I am already 24 with a 6 month baby and still no desire to contact him.

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RedPillSucks 31

@64 That's OK for you, there's nothing wrong with how you feel about this. However, other people are curious about where they came from. I have an adopted son and I fully expect that at some point he'll go looking for his birth parents. I wont fault him for this.

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SisyphereanTask 2

#47: I'm adopted. I think the OP is wrong to have tried to find her. Obviously she didn't want to be found.

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Jewelofagal 2

Sisy -- And, yet......for every one birth parent who doesn't want to be contacted by the child they gave up for adoption, there are ten others who ache to know their child and desperately want to be contacted. The OP wasn't going to know for certain without taking action, although he/she should have used an intermediary to make the first contact.

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Flounder 2

@64 There's a difference between making the decision to find that person and simply being curious about your origins. I was saying that everyone experiences the latter, OP was just someone who sought answers (not blaming them, it's perfectly natural). If you're saying you've never even wondered about the other 50% of where you came from, I'm sorry, but you're lying.

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Jewelofagal 2

#64 -- There's still a whole lot of life ahead of you during which you may form a different opinion as you go along. Afterall, you're only 24 and your child is only 6 months old. I tend to think that you're going to feel differently 10, 15, and 20 years from now...

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monnanon 13

@134 I understand what you mean about the curiosity side but as I know my fathers family really well I will never know if I would have sought him out under other circumstances. I have never been one of those people who has looked at myself and wondered where my eye colour comes from, im just not all that curious. When it came it finding out medical things while I was pregnant I had to look into it but that wasn't something I started. @161 I don't think it will change but I cannot account for the whole future. There has never been the slightest twinge of need to get in touch with him.

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TADspace 30

Well, she ABANDONED you when you where three weeks old. It's obvious she had no interest in you from the start.

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Doortje 29

That could be for numerous reasons, it's not unlikely/uncommon that's she regrets her decision and would want contact now.

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monkeyCanDoMYJob 7

at least now you can move on now that you finally contacted her.

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crazyaces89 7

At least you can say you found her and tried to reach out to her...rather than spend the rest of your life not knowing

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zenti 2

There's nothing wrong with an adopted person wanting to contact his or her birth parents. Really, it's just curiosity. However, you need to consider what may happen, because in cases such as this, there won't be a happy ending.

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DanielleSaysHell 0

That really sucks. Maybe she'll come to her sences one day and relise what she did.

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monnanon 13

unfortunatly not everyone sees the total abandonment of a child as a bad thing. We do not know the mothers reasons either but from what she said to OP it just seems like a bad case of bitchitus.

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