By Dillyduzit - 20/10/2012 18:50 - Australia - Brunswick

Today, I tried to tell my best friend how wrong she is to be dating a married man, whose wife happens to be pregnant with their first child. Our talk ended with her calling me a "meddling, frigid bitch" and me being told this is why I can't get laid. FML
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You deserved it 2 812

Dillyduzit tells us more.

Dillyduzit 23

OP here. It's been three years since the incident, and I finally took the time to read all the comments and figured I can now do a complete follow-up. My best friend and I were in our senior year of high school, and the married man she was seeing was a few years older than us. I didn't know him or his wife. Basically, the guy had a long-term girlfriend who he left because he moved across the country, where he met my best friend. She dated him and lost her virginity to him, so he was her "first love" and that whole deal. He went back to his old town to visit friends and family, slept with his ex, and then came back to my best friend who didn't know. He found out his ex was pregnant, dumped my best friend, and married his ex who moved across the country to be with him and raise their family. My best friend was heartbroken, but I guess he was telling her that he still loved her and was only married to his wife because she was pregnant, but he would eventually leave his wife for her. She- being vulnerable and young- believed it and kept seeing him. Looking out for my friend's best interests, I tried to tell her that what she was doing was wrong- not just for the wife and kid, but for herself, because he obviously was using her and had no intentions of leaving his pregnant wife. She didn't like what I was saying and essentially told me to **** off. I didn't tell the wife (even though I wanted to) because I didn't know her and didn't need my best friend to be mad at me. I was kind of afraid of her because she has a very aggressive personality and I've always been very passive. But anyway, she eventually found someone else and ended things with the cheating asshole. It took some time though. Nevertheless, her and I are still friends. We dropped the "best" though and I keep her at arm's length because new incidents have arisen throughout the past couple of years that made me realize she doesn't deserve my friendship. Karma also helped a girl out and I'm happily married while she still searches for someone who will love her despite the fact that she's crazy. And you best believe I've been keeping my husband far away from her. Thanks for reading! Sorry this was so long.

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0ops_i_died 8

Tell her at least you're not so desperate to get laid that you'd chase after people who are already taken.

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Ruler3000 17

She's the bitch.... But I'm sure you put yourself out there you will get laid!

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xplicitkontent 18

For those of you suggesting that OP tell the wife, I would consider the possibility that the wife may become angry and enter denial. Chances are that they don't know each other, so OP's story would not be credible in the wife's eyes. I think it's best to leave things alone and hope for the best. Some people just aren't ready to hear the news and take action. Telling her prematurely could go either way though: postpone the inevitable discovery or motivate her to look for signs and speed the process up. Tough call...

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friedbunnies 9

Honestly, he's the fuckup. Not your friend. Your friend is just an idiot in denial if she thinks anything wonderful will happen. If she likes sharing, keep your opinions to yourself. If it bothers you that much, find another friend.

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Ergayles 9

I have to disagree with you on this. The friend is just as much of a **** up as the husband is. Now I agree with op for trying let the friend know she's wrong. She knows he's married so she should take as much heat for this as the husband will.

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Axipiter 24

Hopefully you have more friends than just her. Take her off your Christmas card list, and stop hanging around with idjits.

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conholio33 28

If she doesnt see that she is wrong... Maybe its time for u to get a new friend OP

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PixieZee 8

You may feel what she is doing is wrong, but thinking and saying are not the same thing. People go on defense when they think they are being 'naughty/bad', so of course she called you names. Both FYL for moody friends and YDI for telling your friend how to live her life.

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madmoony 6

That's not meddling in her life, that's calling her out onj being a horrible person

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mrsmaglietta 6

what a horrible person i could understand if she didn't know he was married but her being a willing participant in the affair is outrageous the wife deserves a better man and you deserve a better friend

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generationaliya 7

It's also the husbands fault for going along with it. He should definitely know better seeing as it's HIS wife that is pregnant with HIS first child. Both are scum that deserve each other.

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aak_29 2

She a Bitch... That's all ....I hate women like that... They so insecure about themselves....people like that Will have no one around them when they fall flat there face...

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fleur_de_fevrier_fml 22

Forget it and don't get involved anymore. Your friend is not a friend simply for being so spiteful when you are speaking your mind to her and for having principles which are clearly so different from yours. Unlike many posters here, I would not recommend to go and tell the wife, especially if you don't know her. It's very sad and unfair but she needs to figure that out for herself. It is very likely she will not believe you anyway if she has not realised now that her husband is a cheating scum. Just erase these people from your memory and move on.

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