And what of those who don't want to be married given that the divorce rate is close to 54%? But then again,I guess we should get married, have sex on the wedding night and then run out the next day to annul the marriage or start divorce proceedings. ARE YOU DAFT?!

The sex I had when I was married was nowhere near as good as the sex I've had not married, which means that I am happier and healthier not being married: visa vie - your argument is flawed.

I think you meant "vis a vis". Though in context that's wrong too. If you want to give it that 'other language flair' you should have said 'ergo' - (Latin is twice as classy as French) Or you could have just left it out entirely and let the colon do all the work. Just saying.

#81, #85 - Waiting til marriage is an unreal expectation, and is also just plain stupid. Sex is one of the things you should know about BEFORE you get married, especially because life without sex (not sex with multiple partners, being a ****, just sex period) is not life at all. Most of the people who wait til marriage are either extremely unattractive, or extremely religious. #85, you're an idiot for believing everything the media tells you, the divorce rate is nowhere near 50%. That number comes from stupid people looking at the number of marriages in a year, then the number of divorces. What about people that got married 10 years ago and divorced this year? Screws up all the numbers. The actual divorce rate for the first seven years is about 20%, and after those seven years it drops off drastically.

you really waited until marriage? you are a gambler on a level i can't imagine. what if your partner is HORRIBLE? i'm guessing with your religion it is considered wrong to divorce someone who is unf***able. maybe you should have dated other people and HAD SEX WITH THEM. enjoy your life and don't think that it's some amazing gift you should share with one person and have to wait for it. fyl

Wait until your wedding night...way to set up a plan with expectations for your first time...

It's not unreasonable or stupid to wait until marriage. "What if your partner is horrible?" well you're a virgin too, so you're most likely just as horrible, or else, very lucky if you're not. It's not always a religious thing, or based on how attractive you are. I'm pretty however, I was going to wait until marriage. Sex is, at the very least, intensely personal, and especially the first time, emotional. It's something that should not just be toyed with, because it can have so many unwanted side effects. It should be saved for a serious relationship for that reason. You don't want a kid with someone you don't know, and you don't want to get sick from a night with some man/woman you hardly know. If you're serious about someone you can make sure that there's no way for you to get sick, and try to prevent having a kid, but if you do end up pregnant, it's a lot easier to handle with help. That was my logic. There's nothing religious about that. Just I needed to take care of myself. Condoms, and birth control are not 100% effective against pregnancy, or disease (in the case of condoms) I waited until I was engaged, instead. He knew I wasn't going to be any good. What virgin is? It wasn't going to effect whether or not we got married. I knew I would get better. And to those who say your first time can't be good, I feel sorry for you.

Hoax: valid correction. Gold star for you.

boatkicker - its not about not being good the first time, its the fact that sex is an extremely important part of any marriage and/or relationship, and the things people like, things people do, are as varied as personality types. waiting until marriage is a gamble not because it might be awkward at first, but because your personal tastes and styles, things that turn you on vs. what turn him on, etc. might be very, very different. its important to be with someone with whom you really click with on all levels of intimacy, and you wouldn't want to find out that there were things you DIDN'T click on after some legal documents were signed. sex is so much more complicated and varied than you may know, and it can say a lot more about a person than you might think. its a whole level of intimacy with someone that i would never have waited until after marriage to find out about.

OMG, I can't believe you just quoted "Sprockets." I haven't seen that in so long. Marry me?

Yes, but only to interrupt the guy running the ceremony to say, "Your vows have become tiresome. . .Now is the time in the wedding when we dance!" I'm getting my good body stocking pressed now! ;)