Shit, if she made you feel how you do (and it actually IS a she) you might still wanna give her a chance, you never know with love

Catfish!

Look OP, I get where you are coming from since my boyfriend and I met over an online game and he developed feelings for me before we honestly knew each other. But we didn't start anything until well after we starting audio and video chatting with each other. You ALWAYS have to know and if they are not willing or say they are too shy that is a big, BIG red flag that there is something wrong. Better luck next time.

Yeah Missouri

This never once occurred to you? Hope you've been more careful since then OP

Ballwin, MO .

There are so many comments, but I'll give my opinion. This isn't toward OP either, it's for everyone who may not believe in falling in love over the internet. Granted I've never fallen in love over the internet, but I believe it's possible. Talking with someone everyday for 4 years, you don't see a possibility of love? Having constant meaningful conversation over and over with someone who shares so much with you begs for love. You don't need physical attraction to love someone, if you like their personality enough, you can fall for someone. You don't really have a choice in the matter. I've known someone for many years and we've talked online only (of course we've exchanged pictures, nothing sexual), they've fallen for me (which is why we stopped talking for awhile because I didn't want to torture him or anything for not feeling the same). but he found a connection with me he hadn't had with anyone else. All I'm trying to say is that it's possible to fall in love with someone over the internet.

how old are you

You got catfished

All of you commenters here are awful! Can any of you tell me that your friends and spouses are 100% themselves with you? How many times have you heard the phrase "I thought I knew him/her" through floods of tears from your friends/family/your own goddamn mouth? "That'll teach you not to fall in love bla bla" are you HEARING yourselves? Human connection crosses all boundaries: race, religion, gender. The physical aspect is just ONE of many different ways we interact and connect with one another, are your relationships really that shallow? I can't believe how much bitterness is reflected in these comments. Listen, OP, being lied to is bloody awful no matter what the circumstance. We all deserve to be treated with respect and told the truth, although sometimes that may be difficult. I don't know exactly what has happened here, maybe the other person is suffering in ways we don't know about. But whatever the case, you are suffering right now, and my heart goes out to you. Please try to keep on loving and keep on being vulnerable (read C. S. Lewis' quote) after taking some time to heal.