Don't be so quick to respond "dump him". None of you know the girl who this happened to or the guy who did it. And for you saying "you deserve better". BS, I know very few women who actually deserve how nice some guys (I'm normally one of them) can be (/are).

Who the **** is saying she deserved this? 21, 105, and 43. Seriously. Stop telling other people how they should feel. "5 years is too long to grieve" Honestly? What kind of person are you? My boyfriends mother died when he was 9 and he doesn't whine and cry about it everyday. He gets very upset on the anniversary of her death, but that's expected. The death of a parent isn't something you just get over. For you, it might have only taken a few years. But for other people, it's going to take longer than that. Stop telling other people how they should grieve and how long is too long to be upset. Because there is no time limit on how long you can be upset over a parent's death. Also, you guys are even more of assholes because you're assuming the only reason she was doing this was because she wanted sympathy and attention. What's the matter with you? People like you guys piss me off. Get over yourselves. FYI, 5 years actually isn't that long of a time. So STFU.

#265: Five years IS too long to grieve. We should never forget the people we have lost. To forget who they were and what they meant is to not only lose them forever, but we would lose a part of ourselves. I'll always be sad for the relatives I have lost. But to still make a remebrance on the anniversary of someone's death and continue crying about it is a great tragedy. The OP is not only wasting her own life over something that will never change, but she's dwelling on the very worst part of her father's passing. Why doesn't she celebrate his birthday instead? I went through *exactly* this with my wife. After five years of marriage, she was still grieving the loss of her mother. I told her exactly what I just wrote above. I explained that it wasn't because she needed to "just get over it." But this long-term grieving was doing real damage to my *wife*. She needed to get past it before it developed into something she could never deal with. Now, it is worth noting that this was not an easy conversation. It took all night, even though I was being quite a bit more tactful than the OP's idiot boyfriend. That was five years ago. We're still happily married and have since had two lovely daughters. I agree that the OP's boyfriend is a tactless idiot. BUT, the OP does need to learn how to deal with her father's passing in a better way. I'm sure her father would not want her to live in pain, but would prefer that she dwell on the things that made him so memorable. She should SMILE when she remembers him. At first, it'll b a smile AND tears. That, too, is the way of things. But it's also where the healing begins.

DUMP HIM GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

gross, get a new bf.

I hope you immediately broke up with him, sorry you wasted your time with him

I totally agree w/ #265 completely, I lost a parent three years ago and although I don't grieve on a daily basis, the anniversary of a death is hard. Someone who can't understand that is an insensitive idiot, you should def dump him.

Sorry about your father :( *hugs* and sorry about the asshole you've chosen as a boyfriend. :(

Dump him right after you sack him hard in the balls.... I am very sorry to hear about your Father, my condolences to you.

Dump That 13itch Ass douche!