dump that f*ckers ass

DUMG THAT MOTHERF***ING ASSHOLE!

What an asshole. I hope you broke up with him right after.

I agree with him. My mother died 6 years ago, I don't cry every anniversary and expect someone to make me feel better. You just have to move on. (I'm 15 and I have more mental maturity)

I can't believe some people are trying to say five years is too long to grieve. One of the things I was told when my father died - unexpectedly, only a year and a half ago - is that everyone goes through the grieving process differently, and you can take as long as you need to. Obviously I don't know much about the context of all of this, or anything about you and your boyfriend, but regardless that was uncalled for and very insensitive. My boyfriend actually encourages me to talk about my father, because I don't open up enough. A significant other is supposed to be there to take care of you emotionally as well as physically.

On one hand, he's a total dick for saying that. On the other hand, I think it's time for you to move on.

I agree with 21 on this.

Regardless of whether or not the OP likes to listen to herself talk, the boyfriend still brought it up at THE most inappropriate moment. He's a prick.

There are an awful lot of people on here going on and on about how everyone grieves differently and how five years is not a long time and blah blah blah blah. I ask you this: How is that attitude HELPFUL in any way? Grieving is a necessary way of dealing with a terrible loss. But the thing is, you're supposed to stop grieving at some point. That's part of growing up. Sometimes you're lucky enough to put off that lesson until later in life, but you don't get to escape it. Feeling a little sad when you think of someone you have lost is not "grieving." That's just remembering. Crying about it every year on the anniversary of that person's passing - HAVING an anniversary of someone's passing! - is *endless* grieving and is unhealthy. Just wait until the next close relative passes away. How are you going to deal with that or anything else if you're still grieving for the last one? So to the OP: Definitely FYL. You have two problems. Your b/f is an insensitive jerk and you don't know how to get through painful experiences very well. Dump your b/f for someone better for you.

Seriously DUMP HIM.. that was completely UNCALLED for, If I were you , I would have gotten up, Looked at him in disgust and CRACKED him right upside his head and left, my best friend since we were 12, her father was murdered not even a year ago.. and her boyfriend at the time couldnt understand what a dick he was being, at one point he called her a whiny bitch and all this other stuff,, and I just SNAPPED on him, his own mother had to hold me back..