By Anonymous - 10/02/2016 15:32 - United States - Wexford

Today, my aunt informed me that my dad thinks my boyfriend is a loser deadbeat because he hasn't proposed to me after two years of dating and co-habitation. He hasn't asked because I already made it very clear I have no interest in marriage. FML
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wildbynature 13

Maybe try talking to your dad about it. Explain that you don't actually want to get married

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walid820014 20

Tell him your opinion. He will shut the **** up.

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9a_1z 12

But that's insane. Everyone knows all women are just biding their time until they can trap their unsuspecting boyfriends into lifelong commitment. I still think it's messed up that people were giving me knowing looks after my husband proposed, as if it wasn't his idea initially.

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Beepee04 10

He's mad about him not proposing after two years? That's nothing. I mean there's people who wait more than two years before taking such a huge step. Talk of marriage should stay between the couple.

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marcranger 28

OP, I know how hard it sucks being a woman who disagrees with the institution of marriage. If you and your boyfriend are happy and your dad doesn't even have to guts to talk to you directly, forget about it. You'll have plenty of time to defend your views to people who are more than happy to explain why your feelings are wrong to your face. -_-

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Geckosrock99 33

My boyfriend of almost 5 years doesn't believe in marriage due to his parents divorcing while he was younger. I would like to get married, but don't believe in the whole wedding ceremony. It just seems like a waste of money to me (except the cake). Anyway, the differing views isn't a deal breaker and whenever someone asks us when we're getting married, we say "Maybe someday." (we don't know if we'd sign marriage papers in the future or not) just to get the people who think they should dictate our lives to back off. Just do the same. Tell your dad off with the truth, OP. He shouldn't be juding your boyfriend like that. Make him see that it's a decision between you and your boyfriend and he's not a part of it.

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Zebediabolical 39

You don't actually have to get married to buy a small wedding cake. Or go get cake samples...

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Denise1988 13

I paid $65 to get married. We went to an omelet place afterwards. $80 total, well spent!

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aeryn97 17

YDI. talk to your father and tell him. you're an adult. you can handle remarks like that just fine. simply repeat after me: I don't want to get married and my boyfriend respects my wishes because he's a great guy like that. see how easy that is?

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pandalover69 26

Just because she posted this on FML doesn't mean she's not gonna talk to her dad. All the people saying she deserved it seem to think she's know about her dads feelings for a long time, even though she obviously just found out.

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marcranger 28

Seems possible that her dad was the one who isn't acting like an adult, given that OP found out about his views secondhand.

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Shade1982 20

It is also very possible the dad already knows about it, but doesn't take her seriously or doesn't agree with it. I know some religious people who know their son/daughter isn't interested in marriage, but they still believe they should. And they can get rather picky about that.

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Bonngoo 34

Explain it to them, they will understand with some context.

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mineller 24

I love the term 'co-habitation'. It's super sexy

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vegantreegirl 26

F your boyfriend's life it sounds like. I hope you're planning on a conversation with your dad soon. He should know how you feel. As others stated, you are an adult.

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pajamajeans 18

How has your boyfriend not left your commitment-phobic ass yet?

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TheLadyOpal 30

Her boyfriend respects her feelings and stays with her regardless, that's how.

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tigerisabelle 31

Forgive me for my stupidity, but I don't understand what the big deal around marriage is. I understand not wanting to have a church marriage or something, but what's the big deal about signing a piece of paper and legitimizing your union? It brings a lot of benefits like tax benefits, and you can be the "heir" (not sure the legal term) to your SO's money, and you can also be on their insurance etc... Like I just don't understand why someone wouldn't want to get married

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OnlySkyrimStays 11

#72, because if things go wrong and the relationship dissolves, it can be very expensive and time-consuming to officially end the relationship.

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lucki666 2

In most civilized countries you can have all those same rights without getting married, once you live together for x amount of years or have a child you are considered common law by the government. So really your "benefits" to getting married are kinda moot.

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Shade1982 20

They really aren't moot at all. Plenty of those so-called modern societies still have very different rights for married people. Yes, you might be able to achieve the same as a non-married couple, but you usually have to do a LOT more paperwork for it. For example, in several European countries, you aren't even recognised as the legitimate father of your child unless you are married. The mother has to recognise you and you have to sign several documents. And forgetting even one signature can cost you your child if you ever split up. I've already seen it happen several times.

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