By Lexyy17 - 28/05/2016 02:43 - Canada - Lynn Lake

Today, my best friend got engaged. To get his girlfriend to say yes, he had to agree to dump me as a friend because she doesn't want him being best friends with a girl. FML
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Lexyy17 18

Just putting this out there, but I never met the girl. I live in another province.. the drive takes over 30 hours one way. My friend and I only ever chatted online due to the distance and I've been happily married for the last 3 years, been with my husband for 6 so really she had nothing to worry about.

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_Peppermint_ 34

Insecure, much? I'm sorry he wasn't a true friend, op !

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epicgamer 18

He's not your best friend if he's willing to break up with you over some other girl.

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harpermurphy 5

Haha this reminds me of Friends when Ross had to dump Rachel as a friend but didn't

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KimmyImpala 9

I'm not a fan of female friends. Too many damn hoes

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KimmyImpala 9

im supposed to be his best female friend soo

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cryss77 14

How is that person your best friend and you've never even met...

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Lexyy17 18

We have met, we've known each other for almost 10 years, we used to live in the same area until I moved away to be with my husband. Hence why for the last several years we have only talked online.

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DoomedGemini 37

I didn't realize there was a limitation on best friends. Do you have to touch each other once to be able to consider them your best friend or something?

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nemcali 34

Your friend is a bit spineless (to say the least)...

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RedWolfy 7

how is he spineless for wanting to make the love of his life happy & comfortable?

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insecurewife07 3

My husband has a friend who is basically in an identical situation and has many female friends in general. I've never been comfortable with any of it and I've always been open about that. I've never once thought he would cheat on me but his friend is t happy in her marriage and turns to my husband for support in what I feel are inappropriate areas of her life. It's simply the very real fact that an intimate relationship with someone of the opposite sex leaves the door open to wondering about them romantically. I know she would love to be with my husband if the situation was different and I worry that he will think about what life would be like with his female friends and that would hurt our relationship, slowly and subtly but it would. Your spouse does need to be the main person you turn too, most affairs start out accidentally through close friendships. And the people saying that this is abuse or think it's crazy haven't been truly in love and don't understand the fight to keep that alive and protected.

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SneezyBear 27

"I worry that he will think about what life would be like with his female friends and that would hurt our relationship, slowly and subtly but it would." Do you trust your husband? Because it doesn't sound like you completely trust him. And that is definitely something that needs to be worked on. If he has given you reason not to trust him, then the two of you need to sort that out. And if he has never given you reason not to trust him, then you need to sort out your worries, perhaps with his help if he has the will and patience. "Your spouse does need to be the main person you turn too, most affairs start out accidentally through close friendships." While I don't disagree with you completely, having close friends and having your spouse be the main person you turn to are not mutually exclusive. Your spouse can be the main person you turn to (and you're right, they probably should be), but that doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't have close friends. Also, people generally don't have affairs just because someone of the opposite sex is 'available'. If someone is willing to betray their spouse, it usually suggests other serious underlying problems with the marriage already existing. Not that cheating is ever justifiable, but generally there's no reason why people who truly love, care, trust and respect each other would cheat, so if cheating occurs, there's usually a problem in one or more of those areas in the first place. "And the people saying that this is abuse or think it's crazy haven't been truly in love and don't understand the fight to keep that alive and protected." A bit of an insulting statement. First of all, making controlling ultimatums that require your spouse to cut off the close friends in his life (like the fiance did) IS a form of emotional abuse. Look it up. Secondly, the 'fight' to keep love alive includes the necessity of intimacy, trust, respect and openness. Someone who would demand this of their fiance does not respect his choices and does not completely trust him to be faithful, and honestly sounds insecure and not ready for a long-term relationship. These elements are poison to a marriage. This is speaking as someone who loves, trusts, respects and is still deeply 'in love' with her husband.

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iamdoggo 4

I agree because shouldn't you marry your best friend?

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RebaLianne 12

As the wife of a man who has a female best friend, (who is also married, yet extremely flirty with my hubby) I understand things from the other side. I don't appreciate her extreme flirtatious behavior toward him, and have voiced my concerns about it all. Not because I don't trust my husband; I don't trust her. However, I'm not the type to make him unfriend her. Jealousy is an ugly beast, and seeing/knowing my husband is hanging out with her is very frustrating sometimes. I am jealous by nature, but many of our mutual friends have agreed that she pushes the line of friendship too far, too often for it to be me overreacting. Down like if you must, but I understand the fiancées reasoning.

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Elegy77 8

That's big ass red flag for that dude. You never wanna be with someone who is like that, it's gonna cause nothing but trouble.

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HiddenTigres 14

OP I feel your pain as I am in a very similar situation! One of my best guy friends and I have had no real contact for 8 months because our Mothers have demanded that we not communicate in anyway or have any contact until my Husband is finished divorcing me :-( This is a really difficult time and I am really needing all of my closest friends for support and help, but one of my best guy friends that I could really use the moral support and his wisdom on some things. I can't ask! I feel lost a lot of the because I'm so used to picking up the phone & talking to him in the evenings. I understand the frustration & the part of your heart can't help missing a best friend...at least that's how it is for me!

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