@40 What makes you think it's his first time?

OP, I fully recommend to experiment with yourself in order to achieve an ******. It might not be as wholesome as reaching it while having sex with your love, but it is far more likely to happen (the first one, anyways). I had years of sexual experience before I had my first one (no, I didn't have bad sex, and I was very close each and every time, but I just didn't climax), and I got to that when I finally bought my first vibrator. Thing is: a clitorial ****** is easier to achieve than a vaginal one. But during regular sex the ******** isn't stimulated as much, and even then what kind of stimulation one enjoys varies a lot from woman to woman. So the easiest way to find out what rubs you *just* right is to do it yourself. Also, since it worked for me, I recommend a vibrator, but not necessarily one like a **** but a lay-on vibrator that will let you stimulate just your ******** and vulva. There are a lot out there, but just so you know what to look for: I own the Laya Spot by funfactory and love it. Since it isn't a penis-substitute you can also easily integrate it into the sex with your boyfriend if he's up to it. Once you know what sensations you are looking for, you'll be able to angle your body better during sex and will probably be able to ****** during intercourse as well. At least for me that worked and further improved my sex life. Good luck for finally reaching "the big O"!

Don't worry about the haters OP, wanting to have an ****** is perfectly normal for any sane human being. You just have to experiment, like the lady suggested above me, and find out what works for you and what doesn't. Every woman is different, and that being said every ****** and ******** is different. I can't have an ****** with just sex, the ******** has to be simulated somehow before I can climax. Some women can have an ****** with just vaginal sex, and though I'm a tad bit jealous of them, it's never anything to be ashamed of if you can't have an ****** at all. Experiment with yourself, or with your man, and you'll find your sex life is fantastic! Good luck OP!

I found that after I learned to give myself an ******, I could achieve it much more easily with my partner. I recommend you try it! But I think your thinking is fair. You should sit down and have a talk with your boyfriend about this. Communication is really important.

Your expectations are NOT too high from wanting to get pleasure just like he's getting pleasure. Experiment with yourself. Experiment with each other. TELL HIM what feels good versus what doesn't feel good. And don't buy the bull that just because he's more experienced, he automatically knows what's right. What's right for your body won't be what was right for his previous partner's body. Also, I highly recommend listening to Dan Savage's podcast. It's called The Savage Lovecast and is full of helpful information and advice on sex and relationships. :) Good luck!

Your boyfriend... He's my hero, the one my people have looked up to

Recent studies suggest that at least 70% of women are capable of achieving ******. Two of the key factors were level of intimacy in the relationship and willingness of the partner to explore how to help their partner achieve it. Fun and exciting getting there. Good luck.

I mean, you can't blame us OP, we took our best guesses, maybe if you had shed some light earlier then so many people (including myself) would not have made you cringe

Tell him that foreplay is important. If he gets you off once during foreplay it'll make it easier for him to give you what you want when he is inside of you. That always worked for me to give my now ex girlfriend orgasms during sex

I lost my virginity in 1997 and I didn't have my first ****** until 2010 ?...

I haven't climaxed in 13 years, don't worry OP, it will happen.

you definitely need to start having some. id start with ************ the because girl are way more likely to get an ****** thru clitoral stimulation. I think it's something like less than 20% of women can reach it via penetration alone. then when you know what you like/what gets you off teach your boyfriend. have sex/foreplay that's mainly about you once or twice to show him what you need and over time it'll get easier/more enjoyable for both of you.

Ask your man to go down on you.

Hey, nothing wrong with your expectations! However, a lot of women, if not most, find it difficult to achieve ****** from penetration alone, so your boyfriend may have to resort to using his tongue/hands to get you that euphoric bliss. ;) Good luck, and he does sound very funny! haha

if you struggle having an ******... try the wevibe.. good for both of you

what number 57 said Plus the answer to the question is I want to have an ****** but this intercourse stuff isn't working yet what else you got? your boyfriend can make you cum without taking his pants off guaranteed my plan was always make her cum and then you screw