It's nice to see so many people championing adoption but irl I know many people who "would adopt" and very few who actually consider doing it. Also for those saying "just adopt! derp" as though it were as simple as going to the market and picking one up, you should know it's a long, often expensive process and many end up nowhere. Some aren't qualified to adopt by agency standards (gay couples, single parents). Celebrities may have the way paved for them but for the average person, it can be just as emotionally and financially draining as IVF. We don't always get to have what we want, sad though it may be. OP, don't let this ruin your friendship. Bitterness is poor fuel. Congratulate your friend and focus on your next steps.

$90k really?? That's $90,000 I think you mean 9K Also how about you try naturally?

Hey, here's an idea: ADOPT. There are hundreds of thousands of children rotting in a shit foster care system, i'm sure one of them would be MORE than happy to have a home. People really need to stop popping out kids every 8seconds and start focusing on the ones that already exist.

This is a good comment. I would give it a thumbs up, but I can't scroll up that far on my phone.

Ouch that sucks she sounds like a bitch

I'm sorry :( that's actually what I fear the most, people who don't want kids bring able to have a baby but me not being able. And it truly is that expensive!

adopt or foster, there's enough kids without parents. it's selfish to ignore them and have your own.

I kind of understand how you feel........I'm 26 years old and unable to have children either. I know I'll eventually try in vitro and if that doesn't work, I'll adopt every single time I open up a newspaper or watch the news and see that a child was abused...a child was killed by their parents...a child died of heat stroke because they were left in a hot car for hours, I feel like screaming. How are people able to have kids and treat them like crap...when I know I would be an amazing mom, and I can't? It doesn't seem fair sometimes.... but you know what, it's life...getting pregnant, although of course very emotional, is a function our bodies do like any other, and sometimes things don't work like they should...it has nothing to do with whether or not we'd be good mothers, we have to leave the emotion out of it to keep our sanity, but it's incredibly hard Try to be happy for your friend, she may be an amazing mom after all once the baby arrives! Good luck with your treatments! To all of those saying that in vitro is wrong when there are so many children to adopt....who are you to make such an important life decision for others? If we follow your logic, why do healthy people get pregnant in stead of adopting? In vitro is an option, and if a family feels it's what they want to do, why do you care?

Children are absolutely not guaranteed to be there for you until you die. Sometimes there's no you can have over children just turning out rotten. Sometimes no matter what you do, due to whatever circumstances your child will turn out to be a complete and utter dumbass. It's tragic, really.

Did anyone think about what her friend's going through? Not wanting a child, ever, then getting pregnant? That must be one of the biggest **** yous the universe could give you.