For all those crying out for adoption: Bringing a child into your life is an INCREDIBLE responsibility, and some people don't feel like they could take on another person's child. This isn't selfish, it's REALISTIC. Children sense when they're not 100% loved, and they need a home where they'll be unquestionably part of the family. Adoption, while beautiful (and as an adopted child my self, I should know), isn't for everyone. If you TRULY want to do something about the hundreds of thousands of un-adopted children (in the US, at least), write to your senators pressuring for single-parent adoption and gay adoption to be made legal. Those are people who TRULY want those children, and would give them the love and home they deserve.

OP, give your body a little break before you try conceiving again. You're tiring yourself mentally I think. And if it still doesn't work after a while, you can always consider adoption. I looooove how life is ironic -___- I hate seeing people around me with kids they don't give a shit about and treat them badly, while seeing others (like my aunt) trying to conceive/ending up having multiple miscarriages when they really want children. :(

Aww I'm sorry to hear that. Good luck to u and ur partner in the future.

But adopting and treatments aren't easy for infertile people either. Not to mention the stress of knowing you can't conceive when you really want to have a kid. Then finding out your friend who always said she hated children is pregnant? That just seems like a blow to the OP when she found out. Yes, her friend could have tried and things have failed, but there are easier things she can do to get out of an unplanned pregnancy. I might not agree with them all, but if the OP's friend really hated children, then getting out of the pregnancy is the best option. But I highly doubt she'd do it since she told people she was pregnant. If someone wanted to abort, why tell people you were having a kid in the first place? Unplanned pregnancies are hard to deal with, but I wouldn't say it's harder to deal with than being infertile. And as for doctors that won't allow someone to get their tubes tied, the friend could have taken more steps to find a doctor that would have removed/tied them. It's her fault for not doing it and continuing to have sex. If you really don't want something, you'll do what it takes to prevent it. If you don't then it's your problem.

Have her give you her baby. Problem solved.

Damn OP. I'm really sorry to hear that. I am 24 and don't have any children, but I definitely do want children, just not now. I have been really reckless in my time, and it has crossed my mind that I may not be able to have children. I have had pap smears and have never been told that I have any fertility issues, but I have been in long term relationships with a few people and didn't use protection a lot, and have never been pregnant. Not that I wanted to be, it just made me worry that I can't have babies. As a woman, I feel like it is programmed in my DNA to want to have children. Clearly, not every woman feels this way, but I think it is more common than not. I don't know what I would do. I can't imagine what you are going through, and I'm sure it is horrible. So very sorry to hear that OP. Keep your head up, however cliche that sounds.

I know how you feel my sister and I are where you are. She hates kids and is now preggers and not taking care of herself at all. I want kids desperately and have only been able to conceive once and miscarried. Can't help but be a little bitter.

my friend wanted kids for years, never got pregnant. she finally gave up on it, and a few months later she was pregnant! can happen op- don't lose hope!

These days, more and more people are infertile. It's because of pollution and all the fake stuff we put in our food, along with cellphone radiation and such. Even drinking out of a plastic water bottle can cause infertility if the plastic has gotten into the water. Fish and other creatures are even changing genders (from pollution, that is, because some DO change their gender naturally)!!! Sprays and deodorants like Old Spice and Axe have toxic chemicals in them that can cause guys to become infertile. It's crazy.

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