By oregongrl1991 - 29/01/2010 03:32 - France

Today, my fiancé told me he didn't have the money to make payments on my engagement ring and that I either have to return it, or make the payments myself. Now we aren't engaged any more, and are "dating." FML
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Feverrotes 15

That sucks, but I have to admit that his approach was a smart way to get out of an engagement without ending the relationship.

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ANSNIMS 4

My husband didn't get me a ring. I have my Great Grandmothers diamond, and my mom bought my wedding band as my wedding gift. Difference is, my husband was just poor... not a jerk who dangles something like that in front of you and then yanks it away. Dump his ass.

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xNiiiiiCKx 4

wow so this guy loves you enough to try and make a long term committment to you and just because he cant afford a ring means your life sucks? since when do finances and liquid assets have anything to do with love....

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TomasT 0

Marriage used to be all about finance. The only 'love'-weddings in history are the gay weddings the catholic church arrenged from the 14th century and a bit forward. For the rest, it has been an economic understanding between two families. Can't see what's so attractive with a guy that does not have his financials in order. Can't live on love alone...

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abecak 0

Agree with above. If he can't afford a ring that he has to pay for in down payments (Christ, what the hell was that ring made of, anyway, solid diamonds with platinum engravings?!), then he shouldn't have bought it in the first place. My fiancee proposed with a cheap(er) ring and I didn't have anything against that, but if he told me I'd have to pay for it myself, I'd smack him silly. I agree with above posts - he was probably just trying to get out of it, sadly. Either way, he's obviously pretty immature and you should think hard about whether you want to be with him, OP.

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St0rm11 0

Preface- I can't spell, don't grammar police me, I already know I'm wrong. 1- Don't buy crap you can't afford. 2- You realize it's just a piece of metal bent into the shape of a toilet seat right? You can get a real ring (Gold/silver) For about 200 bucks or less. Honestly Cubic Zarconia or however its spelled, look way better than diamonds. And that was most likely a scam to get out o marrige. Or he's just really that stupid with money. --- With that. BUY A CHEAPER RING; the money you save can go to your minor stuff like food and roof over your head. (Yes this sentence was intended to say that) Either way, find a new guy. Or if it was you who wanted such an exspensive ring, he should find a betetr girl.

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AntiChrist7 0

Don't date morons who can't do maths. YDI

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St0rm11 0

I just noticed 1991. If thats your grad year, no comment. If thats the year you were born, wow. You're 18. Nobody at 18 should be able to afford a ring. And slow down, I don't even talk to my bf from then (4 years ago) Not trying to say you break up....................*cough*...................... But you've got a whole lot of life left. ---If youre over 24, disregard this above text. Regard the rest. And to add. i as a female, think both rings should be 50/50. Did you already pay for his? But anyways, my fave engagement ring (which will double as my wedding ring) is at kmart. Silver with diamond (That arent that nice looking but they dont have a CZ ring) Was about 300 I think. (Thats 70%, but theyre allways 70%) Go to Kmart/Target/Walmart. Or a metal shop, same difference.

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birds_fml 7

Be careful about buying silver rings. A lot of them will cause nasty allergies, especially if you wear them for a long time every day. Yellow gold is a lot less reactive (though ugly), but there's always titanium, stainless steel, and platinum (if you can swing it).

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boatkicker 4

I can name at least three couples in who have been together since they were 18. Or since the youngest of the pair was 18 anyways. I even know one couple whose been together since they were 12. They're now in their 40s. Something like 60% of marriages fail now, regardless of age. I can't remember the statistics specifically. Age is not an accurate reflection of how a relationship will turn out. Leave OP alone about their age.

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noype 0

You're 19 and know 3 couples that have been together since they were 18? That's not an impressive number at all. As for age being a factor, it is. The younger a couple is when they get married, the more likely they are to get divorced. This only applies for first marriages though.

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boatkicker 4

Let me rephrase, I know 3 couples who are in or past their 30s, who have been together since they were 18.

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TommyMagic 0

That's very little compared to how many 19 year olds get married now

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boatkicker 4

I'm not sure I understand what you mean? I should know a lot of 30-50 year olds who have been together since they were teenagers, because a lot of teenagers get married now? I will admit to be entirely ignorant about marriage statistics over 12 years old, but I have been told that it was less common than it is now.

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ANSNIMS 4

My husband didn't get me a ring. I have my Great Grandmothers diamond, and my mom bought my wedding band as my wedding gift. Difference is, my husband was just poor... not a jerk who dangles something like that in front of you and then yanks it away. Dump his ass.

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brutal_banger 10

not a nice way to say it but the ring isn't everything. told my boyfriend if he proposes to not give me an engagement ring but a kitten so when we do get married (with rings then) we'll already have a cat that grew up with love. just gotta hope it doesn't die before then

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Twinklestar 0

The idea of a ring is that it symbolizes something ongoing and permanent. Pretty sure an animal with an average life span of 10 or so year is a pretty terrible symbolic gift.

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MrBodybagFiller 0

Wow your so superficial that you would call off the engagement because he don't have money for a ring, in times like they are, all I can is good for he found out what bitch you are before he made the mistake of marrying your gold digging ASS!

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ANSNIMS 4

It's superficial to expect someone to pay for the gift THEY gave you? I'm glad you're not my secret Santa... If he couldn't afford it, he shouldn't have bought it in the first place.

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HanaxD 0

We don't have much info on this one. For all we know, it could be that the OP's boyfriend is the one who doesn't want to be engaged without a ring. Maybe the OP is not upset about having no ring, but about the fact she isn't engaged. So stop calling her materialistic, because maybe she doesn't care about the ring and just mentioned it so we know the reason she's not engaged anymore.

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JP101 0

Love will always find a way. if you were serious about an engagement, you wouldn't have called it off because of a reposition of the ring. You sound very superficial. So because of that YDI.

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Copilot 0

I really hope the 1991 in your username isn't the year you were born, I was born in 1991 and there is no way I would even consider marriage within the next probably 10 years, nor would I be buying rings I couldn't afford.

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