By fatty - 23/09/2009 06:47 - United States

Today, my fitness trainer husband told me that if I could not make the commitment to stay thin, he could not make the commitment to stay with me. FML
I agree, your life sucks 46 407
You deserved it 15 697

Same thing different taste

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doggie3 0

Awwwww. I struggle with weight issues too, so I feel for you, but that is not cool of your husband. Tons of people are gonna be on here telling you to " divorce his ass" but don't.

Jokes aside, my advice would be this: Talk to your doctor. See if you are at an acceptable weight, or whether your health is/is going to suffer for your weight. If you are healthy, divorce. Your husband is just a shallow asshole. If you are not or are borderline, try to lose the weight. He has your health in mind when he says those things.

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Consider that if he's a fitness trainer, he probably knows what he's talking about when he tells you that being fit is important. Still, that was wrong of him to say. The only thing that really justifies divorce is infidelity.

That is a horrible thing to say. That said, it is obviously very important to him and would be good for your health (as long as your not trying to be too thin) so, if you haven't already, it might be worth trying. Don't let him make you feel bad about yourself though - if your going to get fit, do it for yourself.

hassenpfeffermmm 0

He wants someone who respects his profession?

mad_hatter0666 22

your weight shouldnt matter if he really loves you.

SteveTonyY 3

Think of his Statement as a great source of inspiration.

#38 gets a standing ******* ovation from every married man of 20 plus years! bravo my man! no truer words have ever been spoken !

I know this is a few years too late but I have to comment. So it's not right for a woman to get a little pudgy over the years but the women who have to suffer through fat lazy men have to just "deal with it?" You sir are a ******* pig and I hope you die a horrible death, we need less and less people from you.

All you people agreeing with #38 and saying OP deserves this are assholes. OP's husband is a ******** and he doesn't deserve to be married to anyone. He's a prime example of what's wrong with society these days - only one body type is acceptable and everyone else is garbage. Stop being such shallow pigs and accept the fact that not everyone can be the size of a toothpick. Just because someone doesn't "make a commitment to stay thin" doesn't mean they're fat, and it also doesn't mean they're lazy. OP could have some sort of disorder or problem that she can't help. The same goes for several other heavy people in the world. So get off your high-horses and stop supporting anorexia and bulemia.

You are Exactly right #199! Just because some ppl enjoy eating food, and then, NOT throw it up after, it means we are fatasses and not beautiful enough for the world? Its a sick mentality and ppl need to wise the hell up, as being underweight is a serious health risk too!

and also, how sexy and desirable do you believe a shiny bald head is? Or the fact that the hair that you lose from your head seems to grow back on the rest of your body? So f u to men, as you also have horribly unattractive things that happen to you too!

hatemyluck 15

I agree with your point, BUT not everyone that's skinny has an eating disorder. I know a lot of underweight people that love food and do not waste it afterwards. Also, why would OP's husband tell her to lose weight in such a harsh way if she has problems losing weight? Hopefully he would know about that before they got married. If he did know something about that, then he's a jerk. And even if nothing is wrong with OP, he still is a jerk. If OP's husband is a fitness trainer then he should help his wife and work with her instead of just demanding from her.

OP, I'm very sorry to hear your husband seems to be having a "shouldn't have said that moment". If you think you're overweight, then visit your doctor and work out a healthy weight loss plan if it's decided you need to lose some. Otherwise, if your weight is fine and you are happy with it, then stay as you are. If he's the type that thinks you need to be super thin, then shame on him. To those saying the OP knew what he was like going into the marriage, that isn't necessarily true. We don't know how long they've been together, how long he's been a trainer, and if he was big into fitness when they got married. Maybe he liked staying fit at the time, but then became more interested/started training well after the marriage started. You can't predict those kinds of things.