Marriage is more than emotions. It takes commitment, sacrifice and hard work. This is a recent event for OP. You don't just give up a marriage because one spouse acts like that for one moment. You delve deeper into the underlying issues and try to fix it together. Stating OP deserves it because she is still married to him is ignorant. Divorce is not an overnight process. It takes time.

Divorce has a waiting period in most states. Dissolving a marriage is time consuming even when it isn't difficult.

It means that her crying was keeping him awake. He was being a major dick.

If he thinks her crying is annoying, why would he listen to anything she SAYS? He obviously doesn't give a shit about the relationship or marriage if he broke the relationship just like that. It's not worth it to waste your emotions on somebody who doesn't care about you. What you described is more trouble than it's worth.

And that reason was probably blindness.

48, I see what you're saying, and I agree that people should try and fix/work on the marriage before getting a divorce. I do believe that marriages can be brought back from almost any situation and that counselling can do wonders. However, with that said, it takes 2 people to bring the marriage back. If he says he doesn't love her anymore, and can deliver that kind of a devastating blow and not only ignore her cries but tell her to shut up, than I highly doubt he's going to want to do counselling. My sister-in-law was married & divorced before she married my brother, and as a Christian, she believed that marriages were a lifetime commitment, and divorce was a last resort. But her husband told her he didn't love her, didn't want to be married & didn't want counselling. She couldn't do anything about it, and he divorced her. Working on a marriage takes 2 people, and if one of those people drops out, sadly there's often nothing you can do to repair it, even if you want to.

"Love him harder than you ever have before. He will notice." Broken relationships with toxic people don't work that way.

You can't always bring it back. Believing that will only set her up for more emotional abuse later--because that's what this behavior is.

That would only work if they both wanted the marriage to be fixed. He obviously doesn't want to be in a relationship with her, so why would she want to try to "love him harder"? Marriages fail for many reasons. People change, they find someone else, they decide that they want to be single, blah blah blah. We don't know exactly what caused him to fall out of love with OP, but after his declaration and his callousness toward her, I'd say that the marriage is over.

If he won't move out, then I'd suggest staying at a hotel or a friends place for awhile. At least so you can grieve in peace & come back when you're ready to talk & deal with the situation.