Al-Anon and Al-aTeen are two good groups to investigate. They will help you to deal with your Father in a constructive way. I wish you and your Mother the best.

That sucks OP. My moms a drug addict and she won't take any help from anyone because she refuses to admit she has a problem...

my dad was an alcoholic for a long time and it took me getting hurt severely and telling him i wouldnt talk to him again if he kept on living the way he was, and he quit he actually thanked me for helping him finally get that last push just remember...thats not your dad. thats the alcohol. its like a demon. it possesses and robs the host of its happiness and the ability to be content. if he was ever a good dad, then he can get back there. he just has to set his mind on that path, and no one but him can decide that hes ready to stop, so theres no forcing it my decision wasnt an ultomatum, i had only realized that i could not and would not continue to watch him destroy himself and his life, that honestly i would miss the real him less if i didnt have to deal with the alcoholic version alcoholism is a serious disease of the mind and body. please dont take it lightly. he hates being an alcoholic as much as you do im sure, hes just drowning...

This isn't surprising. Most people don't welcome interventions. I tried with my dad when I was 14 and he refused to get help, so I cut off contact with him. It's one of the best decisions I've ever made. It's sad and cliché but you can't help someone that doesn't want to change.

I understand what you're going through. The alcoholic in my life was never physically abusive while I was living in the same house with him, but he was one of those psychologically abusive people who are just as mean and use their words to make your life hell. I will never forget the crying, the screaming, and the times we DID think he was going to physically hurt us. I do believe it got physical after I got out of there and, even though he has now hit rock bottom and has lost his entire family, he still lies and hides the alcohol. You can't help people like that unless they want the help you're offering them. As your dad has proven to you, they will grasp at straws to justify their actions. The saddest thing about it all though is that they oftentimes KNOW they have an issue and they don't WANT to be that way, but they just can't let go of the thing they are addicted to. THEY have to make the decision to get help. Addiction sucks and it isn't only the individual who gets hurt by it. Even though he is a small part of our lives, each member of my family still suffers for it in various forms. At the end of the day though, he is the only one still trapped.

There's really no way to reason with people like that. You can only explain to him that if he doesn't stop, he'll be on his own, for good. If he still refuses, just leave.

This is a terribly sad Fml. I hope your dad eventually calms down and realizes you are right so he can start getting the help he needs.

If someone wont go to rehab by themselves when you ask them, its not worth it. Sources: my dad was / kinda still is an alcholic

Ive been in the same boat. The only way for a drunk to stop being drunk is to realize it themselves that they are a drunk.

Terrible what addiction can do to a person. I hope your father will accept the help that he is offered and wish your family all the best for the future.