By holluphollup - 01/08/2016 18:01 - United States - Mineola
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OP here. I'm here to explain this a little better. Ok so first off, I'm under 18 so therefore I can't leave. Second, my mother wants to do this because she wants to be a midwife, and Guatemala has cheap midwifery classes and programs. You might say she's doing this to help us financially, but my dads a doctor so that takes care of itself. Also, my mom has horrible back problems. At times she can barely move without hurting. If she's like this, then how will she be able to perform her job well? ( Surgery isn't an option because everyon we've tried has failed). I'm 17 and I've been in a small town where everybody knows everybody. I'm at the top of my class, and I have a real shot into getting into a prestigious university. I also have very deep connections with the people here. I don't want to throw this away. I don't mean to be rude and thwart my moms dreams, but it's just not what's best right now in my opinion. Hope this answered a lot of your questions. Also, thanks for all the support I really appreciate it. :)
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Yeah I have been to Guatemala and it is great to visit but two weeks is more than enough. Sorry OP.
Is your mum an Archaeologist or anthropologist? I'd understand then.
Maybe OP has friends, family, a significant other, school, a job, and whatever else where they're at now? It would be heartbreaking to drop your entire life because she wants to move. I'm over 18, and my mom wants to move from the north to the south. From Ohio to Texas. I have friends, a job and college right here. I wouldn't want to go because my life is here. I was already uprooted once when I was younger and I hated it. Now I have a choice. Think about it. Drop EVERYTHING in your life, and move to a new country where you don't know anyone, the culture, or maybe even the language.
No, she's having a midwife crisis.
OP here. I'm here to explain this a little better. Ok so first off, I'm under 18 so therefore I can't leave. Second, my mother wants to do this because she wants to be a midwife, and Guatemala has cheap midwifery classes and programs. You might say she's doing this to help us financially, but my dads a doctor so that takes care of itself. Also, my mom has horrible back problems. At times she can barely move without hurting. If she's like this, then how will she be able to perform her job well? ( Surgery isn't an option because everyon we've tried has failed). I'm 17 and I've been in a small town where everybody knows everybody. I'm at the top of my class, and I have a real shot into getting into a prestigious university. I also have very deep connections with the people here. I don't want to throw this away. I don't mean to be rude and thwart my moms dreams, but it's just not what's best right now in my opinion. Hope this answered a lot of your questions. Also, thanks for all the support I really appreciate it. :)
If you're 17, you may turn 18 by the time the move is settled, in which case you can try to make other arrangements for yourself. Otherwise, I agree with some previous comments. You should try to secure your parent's blessing to stay with other relatives or family friends for the time being.
It seems your mom hasn't thought this through very well. You shouldn't uproot your whole family for some cheap classes, especially when it sounds like they are both, not needed, and she couldn't put them to good use anyway. Maybe you should talk to your dad about it, try and make him understand your perspective, and then he can talk to your mom. Sometimes adults/authority figures listen to other adult/authority figures better. What I don't understand is, why can't she find midwife classes to take where you are, or near where you are? Your dad is a doctor, so I assume you're relatively financially stable, couldn't they afford US midwife classes?
Uprooting and moving an entire family to get cheap classes in a potential job field is pretty darn foolish. Not just because it's expensive to move, but also because there is probably a reason the classes and programs are cheap. Even if not, pursuing a rather unstable career (being a midwife isn't exactly like being an accountant) that you might not be able to physically perform is no reason to jeopardize a child's future. Also, if your father is a doctor, having him move could be financially disastrous.
Thanks for clarifying all of that :) Definitely try talk to your mum again, she is being incredibly unreasonable. The least she could do is wait a short time until you have left home, or until you are legally old enough to fend for yourself. I wish you the best of luck in resolving this!
I moved out when I was 16. My mom had no say in the matter. Legally she still had access to all my information, but she wouldn't have been able to force me to move home. Check out the laws in your state, you may be in the clear, being 17.
We really need a follow up on the state of the suggested move to Guatemala. Did you end up moving to Guatemala? Has she reconsidered the move to Guatemala, and if so, before moving to Guatemala or after moving to Guatemala? You'll notice I'm saying Guatemala a lot. This is Guatemala because this seems to be repetitive with the Guatemala, even though Guatemala is only used twice. Guatemala.
While your entitled to you opinion. What's wrong with moving to Guatemala? Why don't you explain why you don't want to move there. Also if your over 18 then try to make arrangement with your other family to stay with them.
Guatamala is a beautiful country, rich in culture, but as within many Central American countries, it has it's issues. Political corruption is present, which can make things dangerous and unstable. It has fairly high poverty levels. It has one of the highest murder rates in the world, and less than 4% of them are solved. To give perspective, in 2009, there were more murders of civilians in Guatamala than there were civilians killed in the war zone of Iraq. Murder among women is especially high, women are targeted and murdered simply for being women. The country also has a really bad problem with gangs and drug cartels, they often bribe law enforcement too. Guatamala is a very beautiful country, it's good to visit and explore the culture, but it isn't a good place to move a family if you don't have to.
You got a bunch of NEGATIVE votes because you're on the computer and you could easily look this country up yourself. Now even after your question has been answered you still don't seem to get it. You now know why moving to Guatemala isn't a great idea, stop acting dumb.
Worst case you could always get emancipated,just show that your almost an adult and are responsible enough (sounds like you are)
Op responded and she's 17 but emancipation can take years. She will turn 18 before she can even get to court.
What's wrong with Guatemala? It's s beautiful country only thing wrong is bugs,heat,crime, and poverty! That's anywhere in the world
As another person explained, in 2009 more civilians were killed in Guatemala then in Iraq, which is a literal war zone. The homicide rate is astronomical there, you're on the internet, look it up for yourself.
Used to live in Guatemala, amazing country...
I don't blame ya!
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You have every right to be upset at something that would so drastically effect your life! I really don't understand these other comments. If your mom is determined to move, maybe try and find other living arrangements with a friend or extended family?
I really find it hard to judge here with no background info, but seriously, Guatemala? Please OP, can you explain why your mum wanted to move there in the first place? Does she have a job offer there, is she from Guatemala originally...? What's up with that?