By PhoenixChick - 08/09/2015 18:54 - United States - Champaign

Today, my mother-in-law got her driver's license, despite being prone to fainting, seizures, and being on so much medication that she sometimes forgets where she is. She now wants to drive us to all our family functions, and my father-in-law won't object because he doesn't want to damage her self-esteem. FML
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Hey, OP here! You know, this might be a comment thread that saves lives. I had already decided to put my foot down on me or my husband ever riding with MIL, but...I hadn't thought about everyone else. And now I have. I do not live with my in-laws, but we live in the same town and I cannot drive at night so it gets awkward to refuse their offers when my husband can't take me somewhere. Funny thing is, there is no legal restrictions on my driving,the DMV keeps insisting I'm fine, but I know that my contacts and retinal disease give me issues with headlights and therefore I shouldn't. I'm fine during the day, but stay off the road at night. I'm careful because my eye disease is from my father, who kept driving at night when he shouldn't. Nearly killed himself in an accident. I know who my MIL's doctor is, and I'm going to call his office. She MUST have lied to the DMV, and I think it'll be easier to talk to her doctor than to the DMV. I just have to brace myself for if she finds out. Thank you all for the help. My in-laws are rather good at manipulation. I've known them for ten years, and they use MIL's medical issues to overrule literally everything. She has serious psych issues, and FIL is very protective of her feelings. To the point of letting her lie to my husband's doctors when he was in the ER because it made MIL "feel useful" to tell the doctor's things about my husband's health. She was making up all kinds of things about my husband's condition when he went in for emergency surgery, and when I corrected her I got yelled at by my father in law for making MIL "feel bad." Nevermind that her lies to the operating surgeon could have gotten my husband seriously hurt or killed. So yeah, this ends now. I'm not going to let her hurt anybody else if I csn help it. Wish me luck, I've got a fight on my hands...

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hotheadslav 17

Just try and make an excuse to drive yourself or to be in a different car, if you can't though, just try and break it to her easy. I would rather hurt her feelings than be in a fatal crash. You're stuck between a rock and a hard place OP. FYL

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little_star78 13

Buckle up and hold on tight

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catherinecas 30

Depending on what triggers the fainting and seizures it might not be a liability for her to drive. I'm prone to fainting but since I don't stand up in the car it's a non-issue.

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chriss2015 13

She shouldn't be allowed to have her license if she has seizures. I know an epileptic and she can't get her licence. Maybe the laws are different in the U.S. but I would bring this obvious danger to her or your partners attention.

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momogal 22

It all depends on your state's licensing laws, type of seizures, frequency of seizures, and your family doctor/neurologist's recommendations. For example: I have right temporal lobe epilepsy that is well controlled without meds. The type of seizures that I tend to have don't alter my consciousness or mental state. If I do have a major seizure (that I report to my doctor or go to the hospital for), the state of Michigan will suspend my license until I have been seizure free for six months. Thankfully, I haven't had a grand mal seizure in almost ten years.

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Bigfabthetruth52 22

Well she would of had me all the way ****** up if she would think I would put myself or others in that kind of situation.Regardless of what her self esteem levels are she would have been told to get her self from behind any Damn steering wheel.

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clair_brodie 35

Yeah... she legally can not have that license..

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zach055 23

This person should not have been issued a license. If you call the DMV and tell them about her medical problems, I'm sure they'll revoke her license.

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militarybrat 21

Uh. She lied to the dmv. There is a line where it asks if you are prone to (x things). And then you have to have a doctor say you can drive. I fainted ONCE a few years ago and had to have a doctor who had never seen me before sign off that I was ok to drive.

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Jwaye2 7

Screw her self esteem, DO NOT let her drive. One of my best friends was killed by a driver who was mentally ill and prone to black outs. He got out of the car and wandered away from the accident while my friend bled out. Got away with it because he was mentally ill and legally shouldnt have been driving so they say it wasnt his fault. Do not risk other peoples lives for the sake of someones feelings/self esteem.

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MistyKittyx 23

One of you needs to have the guts to say NO.

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