By Tag - 24/09/2014 01:19 - Australia

Today, my psychotic, very jealous ex-boyfriend appeared out of nowhere and punched a male store clerk who was helping me look for azaleas in a garden center. FML
I agree, your life sucks 39 195
You deserved it 3 164

Same thing different taste

Top comments

You found the azaleas, he found an assault charge.

Comments

skyeyez9 24

OP....what seriously made you attracted to him in the first place?! There had to be warning signs early on with controlling or future abusive behavior. There are always signs. You have to analyze them from your relationship with him, and take note when they happened, and read about how to notice them better so you can avoid that type next time you start dating.

omrfzn 3

Duh, that's why that man is her ex-boyfriend

Astrum14 24

You're getting a little close to victim blaming here. Lots of abusive types know not to be crazy at first because if someone abuses you on the first date, they aren't getting a second. Then they slowly get worse and worse as you get more and more attached, betting that you'll like them enough to stay.

kellyem2 20

Overbearing, controlling behavior like yelling at a stranger on the internet and trying to force them to take responsibility for someone else's inexcusable behavior? You don't know about their dating past. All you have are a few details about one particular incident, so how about we tone down the judgmental tone?

There probably WERE signs, which is why this guy is now her EX. And I hope the clerk in question presses charges against the abusive ex-boyfriend.

Hey #30, not cool. I was with a controlling abusive partner and there were NO signs for 8 months, then when weird little signs did happen I thought it odd but didn't leave immediately. Don't victim blame, these abusive types can be tricky and clever. She obviously did see the issues as they've broken up but don't imply she is blind to the signs for future relationships.

CaroAurelia 12

No wonder he's your ex! Restraining order time! *starts singing the words 'Restraining Order' like in that one episode of Castle*

TrinityNevada 11

I don't know where the YDI's are coming from. Obviously, OP was smart enough to dump him. Problem is, no, not everyone sees red flags. I grew up in a very stable, loving, cooperative home and NEVER heard my parents disagree. If they did, one of them would immediately back down (whoever was being the less strict, mostly). I never got into arguments with friends because you just didn't do that. I did not learn how to handle conflict. I truely didn't know what to do if I was told I was wrong and I second-guessed myself. The abuser always starts off nice and attentive. It begins slowly, you justify isolating or controlling behavior and manipulative people are VERY good at making the abused person think it's their fault. I can see how it can escalate. Oh, and abusers? They won't be dumped. I had an ex like that: I dumped him, he didn't agree, and decided that I was the one cheating because it wasn't over until he decided it was over. TLDR

SmittyJA24 26

Restraining order? No.... I'm thinking CWP & a handgun.

Your ex has serious problems, but then again who doesn't? I'm sorry you were humiliated in public OP, it's time for a restraining order

BasketCase092 19

I feel bad for you, but the visual image had me busting up.

If he keeps that up I think he might have a law suit on his hands

jcast0627 9

Were they Iggy Azaleas? Oh god that was bad I'm so sorry.

Does no one care for the store clerk? Maybe this is the part where you and the clerk fall in love because of your psycho ex :)

Errr up side you've got a body guard??? ....I'm joking...hope things get better before worse :) xo