By Anonymous - 21/10/2015 11:40

Today, my soon to be ex-wife told her friends that we're getting a divorce because I'm physically abusive. I guess that sounded better than the truth: that she waited 8 months into her pregnancy to tell me that the child probably isn't even mine. FML
I agree, your life sucks 30 583
You deserved it 1 764

Same thing different taste

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Yet her side is probably the one everyone will believe... Such a shame

Wizardo 33

Request a paternity test and oust her, heartless liars don't deserve any leeway.

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ezrajab 22

It happens she will get hers one day sorry op. For now tho just keep your fingers crossed that it is., and hope for the best!

RedPillSucks 31

make sure everyone knows the real reason. she doesn't have to be the one that sets the narrative.

Well is there any signs of physical abuse? Take it to court, they'll be able to tell if the bruises are self inflicted or not.

Sounds like you need a paternity test and a damn good lawyer ASAP

So sorry OP!! She's a bottom feeder with no integrity! If the child is yours he/she will grow-up and know who you really are and the truth will be revealed eventually. If the child isn't yours then you will be able to heal your heart and move on to a better place and put this all behind you. Just keep your chin up and stay strong AND remain calm. Less is more in these situations because if you run around trying to defend yourself you'll only look guilty. There's 3 sides to every story: His truth Her truth And The Gods honest truth Hang in there!! ???

I guess I can't post emoticons because it turned them into question marks...I am new to this site so I'm still trying to figure out how all of this works... : )

File a defamation of character or slander lawsuit against her, to hold her accountable for any damage done to your reputation and finances that could occur as a result of her lying. I also believe that there is pre-birth paternity testing now, so it may be worth it to shell out for the test just to make it so she can't put your name on the birth certificate. It could also make it so you can find the actual father if the child isn't yours, which would support her infidelity as the cause of the divorce. You could also have copies of the divorce papers made and keep them on hand to shut people up, as well as her lack of reporting physical evidence of abuse. If all else fails, I suppose you could try to press for a lie detector verified testimony, and just give one from your end saying you didn't abuse her. Also, character testimony from your friends, family, and colleagues should be gathered to be presented.

I get most of what you're saying, but lie detectors aren't particularly reliable...

the truth will come out eventually and she will look like the bitch and hag that she is.

Can't you sue for this? Defamation of character or something?

That is disgusting on so many levels ... For one, it could have gotten you in trouble and, even if her friends aren't your friends you still know them and it's an awful feeling when people think things like that about you. Second, it's disrespectful towards the men and women who have been through physical abuse, it's terrible to use them as a way to seek attention. You'll find someone better OP, my best wishes, hang in there !