By Jason - 05/02/2018 15:30 - United States - Kenai

Today, I found out that my girlfriend is actually a man. Not a transgender person, I'm okay with that, but an actual gay man who gets a kick out of pranking other guys. FML
I agree, your life sucks 5 547
You deserved it 1 019

Same thing different taste

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What was the first sign? The facial hair or really deep voice?

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Me? I know who I am. I'm a dude playing a dude disguised as another dude!

MallowMistress 13
EnvyMe33 26

You should never officially go into a relationship without meeting in person and getting to know them. You never really know a person this day and age.

if you've never met the person in actual reality, you are not in a relationship. People who are catfished deserve it honestly, how stupid and in denial can you be without getting what's coming to ya

I'm sure you're this stoic about it every time someone tricks or takes advantage of YOU, right?

AzrielB 8

reveal that you were a woman this whole time, that would show him!

I'm assuming there was no physical contact because that would have been your first clue. so when you say girlfriend I'm guessing in a rather superficial way. cause unless you're an idiot you should have been,able to tell.

raspution 21

not always here in san francisco a lot of them are very passable. other then the thing between there leg and if he kept putting off sex....

There was a case where a girl tricked another into thinking she was a man, they had sex in the dark several times and had no idea that they were using a strap on the whole time. When the girlfriend realised she wasn't actually dating a man she went to the police because she wasn't consenting to sex with a woman. It went to court and I think the duper became a sex offender.

There was a person on Catfish who did the ***** in the dark thing...apparently successfully

UOFreak07 8

your girlfriend? meaning you've spent time together (I hope). how did you not notice?

thejimhawkins 13

Sounds like something that belongs on Jerry Springer.

WeirdUS 29

If they were iffy about video chatting/pictures that is a big red flag. I'd also be wary of anyone that avoids talking on the phone as well. Both are big signs they are not who they say they are especially if they claim they are looking to date with hopes that it turns into a relationship.

Can we please stop calling everyone we ever texted or just talked to girlfriend or boyfriend? Am I too old-fashioned for thinking that you should ask someone if you want to be exclusive and if you want to be in a relationship (different things!) after several dates and sex stuff? Maybe this is also a language thing but I noticed that lots of people directly expect to be exclusive when they are going on dates with someone. How can you assume that?

WeirdUS 29

Agreed it sounds like they've never met the person from the way it was worded. In that case, I agree with the person above who said in some aspect you deserve it for being catfished. How can you date someone you've never met, never mind video chatted with. I'm going to assume they haven't otherwise he would have known unless the guy looked super convincing on a skype video call.

Whenever someone talks to me and claims someone they recently started dating "cheated" on them, I ask when they asked that person to be exclusive. I've never had someone say that they asked that question when posed with this situation. I am 100% with you and think that adults approach relationships in steps. Personally, I don't go past a kiss with more than one person in any given time period. I also don't share so when I'm sure I want to be with someone or specific to them, I make that unquestionably clear.