have you had sex yet? you know you can get an anullment if you don't consummate the marriage . . . maybe you should keep your blueballs for a month or so and see if she's REALLY worth being married to. And if you decide she's not, *god* won't even hold you responsible.

Forget everything anybody says... Good on you for waiting until you're married :)

I think it's really cool that you waited sex off. Perhaps she was just nervous or tired (after all, weddings and receptions are exhausting!) That, or perhaps she's a bit scared. She probably has no idea what to do or may be nervous about being naked in front of you (speaking as a woman, we do have issues over men seeing our naked bodies and fear of judgement, even though in the locker room we can strip and talk to the gals about everything!)

Ignore half the other commenters. What's happened here is, she's afraid. You're standing in front of her naked. She obviously needs build up over time, which has not happened in your past (so it seems), rather than a 'right, virginity time over!' type man standing naked in front of her. She probably just meant 'not now, not like this', not 'forever'. Many young women virgins can't even deal with a man touching their bare thigh, so she can't just switch over to 'ritualised sex' straight away like that. Also for goodness sakes don't just stand there in front of her naked and smiling. How about some foreplay about it!! Or dimmed lights!

It's not uncommon for people to wait until marrage to have sex. The girl is probably scared that if they have sex, she'll disappoint and he'll leave her but she really loves him. After all, it is her first time and she might be clueless. Congrats to the OP for waiting! I'm a girl, and I don't want someone who isn't my husband to take my virginity. Not even a fiance. If he really loves me, he wont care if I'm super scared for my first time and might try to get out of it (totally sympathize with your wife. I'll probably end up doing the same thing). He'll stick with me because he loves me, and wont try to divorce or annul the marriage. If he talks with me about my fears, I'll go through with, though I will probably disappoint as it will be my first time. So talk with your wife and be gentle. She probably wasn't planning on chickening out of her wedding night and is super sorry and embarrassed, yet relieved. Eventually you two will do the deed, as long as you're caring when you talk this out.

don't force the girl. i agree with #3

#111, Why are YOU talking about disappointing your husband? You aren't even considering that he might disappoint you. Especially if he's a virgin, he'll probably last all of four minutes, not understanding that most women do not get off through intercourse alone. You'll also be disappointed by the amount of pain and blood. I'm not saying you deserve it... But sex is always secondary to love. She made a committment to you and she deserves better than you getting all pissy over the internet because wedding night sex is a tradition you two didn't engage in. She could have been exhausted by the ceremony and reception, and you're going to make her feel bad because she wasn't ready to just get down and dirty with you?

@10 Funny I say the exact same thing about guys. I don't know I think it's partly your wife's fault for not talking about it before hand. I mean how long have you guys been together? You'd think that if some abuse had happened to her in the past she would have told him by now. I get that it's hard but you need to be open about these things especially if it's going to have these results. I mean it sucks for you, I'm not a huge fan of abstinence to begin with, I believe you've got to be sexually compatible with a person if you're going to have a long term relationship. I hope it works out for you.

#28 if its not pleasant for the girl than the guy isnt doing it right. My gf has enjoyed it from the first time (both of our firsts) and even more so now a year and a half later. Maybe im just a natural :)

as #110 said, just standing in front of her naked and grinning at her is an awful and awkward way to begin something that was sure to be uncomfortable for her! and everyone who's saying divorce her are such assholes. talk to her about why she reacted this way! you guys will figure it out. :)