She could also be asexual (www.asexuality.org) and perhaps didn't realize it and truly thought the feelings would come with marriage

I burst out laughing when I heard this. sorry OP. Uh...like someone said maybe her parents scared the heck out of her instead of giving her the sex talk, It gets hard to get rid of those ideas. Be patient with her and if you two love each other,the first time should be very pleasant for you both. Now on the other hand if you are also a virgin, then uh...awkward.

I seriously hope your wife isn't a fan of FML because if so, you are never getting laid. Getting upset if your wife is scared to lose her virginity (which for a women can be really painful)???? YOU JUST GOT MARRIED CALM DOWN.

See, your first mistake was that you trusted a woman not to hurt you. I'm sure all these other incredibly logical explanations make sense, but I'm guessing she just wanted to see the pain on your face as something amazing was taken away from you. FYL, FHL

Um, I'd be scared to death too! I mean, it might not hurt for YOU, but losing her virginity is not exactly a fun thing for a girl. Being scared isn't exactly an uncommon reaction. Seriously - just because a girl is afraid to lose her virginity (which can be really painful) doesn't mean that she's asexual or any of that crap. It just means that she's not sure that she's ready, which may also be why she wanted to put it off in the first place. This isn't an FML, or a YDI. It's just a guy not being sympathetic to his WIFE, who is afraid of the unknown, and afraid of getting hurt. Give her some time and space, and she'll be ready soon enough if she doesn't think that you're rushing her.

yeah, never get married until you're sure that EVERY aspect of the marriage is exactly what you want for the rest of your life. you can annul that shit, she refuses to consummate.

alright well my mom was raped when she was in college and my parents have been married 25 years, and it still ***** with her to this day. so i wouldn't jump to conclusions and say she doesn't love him, things like that stick with you forever. and even if she wasn't sexually abused, religious upbringing can do that to you, plus she was probably afraid it would hurt. like so many people before me said, just be patient and understanding with her and she'll come around.

Please read "On chesil beach" from Ian Mc Ewan, it's exactly about this. Two people on honeymoon, and the girl who's afraid of sex. I loved the book, and I think you'll recognize your situation in it. If you love her, she's worth taking it easy and waiting till she's ready..

YDI for wanting to wait. The worst thing in a committed relationship is not being able to enjoy it. By the time you finally figure it out, it's too late. No matter how nice a car looks, you always gotta test drive it first.

Hey you wrote this on the same day? What time is it? xD Did you jumped right off to the computer after what your wife said? xD