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First of all, congrats on your marriage, and on waiting. Most people don't anymore. Second, I'm a girl and, let me tell you, I'm terrified about my first time! I'll probably end up saying something similar to my husband on our wedding night. My parents have taught me that sex is for wedlock only, but it'll be hard to make the transition from "fiancé" to "husband" and actually do the deed. On top of that, it hurts. I'm sure your wife loves you; just be patient with her. She was definitely scared. She may have been sexually assaulted, but I'm guessing it was just her fears. Ease into the intercourse. Maybe start with a romantic dinner, buy her some sexy lingerie, and, after dinner, take her back to the bedroom and do it. Make it romantic. Make it one of those one-thing-led-to-another things so she won't think of it as the scary "losing it" moment and be freaked out.

That must have been one creepy smile... But seriously, I think she's really just scared. Personally, the idea of sex (the first time) terrifies me-I'm also waiting. She's probably worried that it will hurt, it wont fit, that she won't know what to do, that you won't enjoy it... Remember that the first time is way easier on the guy. Please please don't push her. Be gentle and take it slowly. She'll come around, she won't want to disappoint you... she's just scared. @74- hahahhaahhahahah that really amused me

divorce. hell, this is even grounds for annulment. there's blue balls, but this is just cruel.

no, no, no. It's scary to have sex for the first time. My husband and I were both virgins when we got married, and we ended up staying that way for almost a week after the wedding because we were nervous. There's nothing wrong with our marriage, it just takes time to warm up to it. Be gentle with your wife, it'll be ok.

I want a follow-up to this story. What happened next???

marriage without sex is stupid. i'm sorry that's just all there is too it

i plan on saving myself for marriage, but i'm definitely not going to be like this girl. it sounds like she's been too sheltered or something, or told that sex is evil (and thus should only be for married people). you guys really need to talk (which you really should have done waaaay before now)

sounds like shell be a fun wife

Maybe you were just doing it wrong.