snap. thats why you dont wait til marriage...or find someone who isnt a whiny bitch

People are telling you that this is why you have sex first. They're idiots. You two did the right thing. She's nervous, scared, so be patient with her. You married her for a reason, and sex isn't it. It's an important perk, yes, but that's not why you married her. Remember that.

@22. not necessarily. some people who are homosexuals and know it still do go as far as marrying the opposite sex even if they dont find them sexually attractive. a lot of people still frown apon homosexuality (for that they're wrong imo) but depending on upbringing and religion and what not, some people are extremely afraid to come out of the closet to family and friends. I should know, most of my friends are gay and they all had a hard time coming out.

Reasons why you shouldnt "save" yourself for marriage. Even if you had sex that night, there's still the possibility that you just wouldn't be compatible. It's funny how a strong mental connection or even what feels like good chemistry can be misleading.

oh mann. That sort of happened to me. But two months into the relationship not marraige, And yeah the relationship ended 20 minutes later. I loved her, but sometimes Women love guys in a "look after me" way rather than everything like guys can want Either that or like #45 shes a les :P

Why would she get married if she wasn't ready for sex? Kind of stupid if you ask me, but whatever.

waiting to have sex 'til you get married is like only filling your gas tank for as much as you think the trip is going to use. You always get stuck at a red light and come up a few miles short. nice idea on paper (like the bible), doesn't always work out in practice (also like the bible). Your life is ******, but i think you deserve it a bit for being naive about sex. Abstinence FTL

#129 please save your future husband the pain and not marry at all. Girls like you are way too mentally unstable with your own sexuality, let alone your partner’s, to ever maintain a stable relationship. #99 Sex is a form of communication in any healthy relationship, there’s nothing wrong with sex before marriage. The idea of sexual gratification as being a negative in relationships is why OP is having the problem in the first place. This isn’t a waiting to be married issue, his wife clearly has her own set of problems that she need to comfort and get over. Hopefully he’ll help her get through it, instead of just throwing in the towel. OP fyl man, that sucks.

Aww...sorry to hear. if you hadn't gone very far before marriage, she's probably just really anxious about going all the way on the first night. I'd say take your time, warm up to it, and she'll calm down soon enough. It might also help to talk with her about what her anxieties are, specifically, and address them together.

i agree with #15 (magicalmysteryto). that sucks, but i hope you can find out what's bothering her and work it out.