She might have never been sexually assaulted. Perhaps she was just taught that sex is a dirty disgusting thing.. You know some religions enforce that, and she probably still adheres to it. Today, so much emphasis is placed on virginity and the loosing of it. For example women who are virgins are usually seen as 'pure and chaste' while a woman who has had sex before, even if it was just once with someone she was in a loving, committed relationship could be considered as a '*****'.. That's just the way society unfortunately labels people these days.. She might just be nervous about all that.. She might be scared as hell to have sex for the first time since she's never done it before. No matter how romantic 'sex' seems, its still plenty scary. You are violating her body no matter what you think.. (you're going in it).. Even then she might not want to get pregnant if you're the type that believes in no contraception and just having intercourse to reproduce. There are always many reasons.. Just be patient and take your time. If you've waited this long and really love each other, there is no reason to rush into things.

+1 on #2. Last thing you want to have to deal with on your wedding night is emotional baggage, or wrongly placed guilt over the act sex(i.e alot of religions) >_>

Is she a virgin? If so, I completely understand her plight in being frightened.

Oh my word... FYL, that's sad. I'm personally abstaining til marriage as well, but I can't WAIT for that part of marriage. I don't understand what kind of person could feel that way about having sex with the person they love. I'm sorry...

Omg i would be devistated but since its not me omg lol thats funny really hahahaha.

Everybody, stop going "OMG ID BE LIEK DEVASTATED, MAH WIFE DOESN'T WANNA DO IT". She might be asexual. Some asexual people are afraid of sex, or see it as bad, for some odd reason. It's not her fault. OP - FYL.

Your fault. Sexual compatibility can make or break a marriage - regardless of how much the people involved love each other. Waiting until marriage is a huge contributor to divorce, people living in absolutely misery, eventually hating their spouse, and infidelity. Counseling, now or your marriage is over.

#174 is correct. You shouldn't have waited until you were married. If you don't now if you're sexually compatible with each other, how can the marriage ever last?

Why is everyone assuming that she's an assault victim, gay, or thinks sex is dirty? Your wedding day is absolutely exhausting in every way - physically, emotionally, mentally. Most newlyweds I know don't even have sex that night, they pass out from sheer exhaustion once they reach their hotel and have sex the next morning. She was probably just fried from a long day and needed some sleep. Try again tomorrow.

Thank you #110, I was hoping someone had mentioned foreplay. Seriously, you don't just stand there naked and expect the girl to actually want it... If you play nice, I'm sure it'll happen...