To #16 Poopstain - I think you mean consummate. In any case, she will come around. Just be gentle and listen to her needs in order to make her the most comfortable. Whatever you do, don't pressure her because these things really take time. Loosing your virginity can be a hard thing if you don't have any prior sexual experience. Let it be a lesson though to make sure you give your own kids adequate sex education if you ever end up having any.

#52. So because she's scared, he should get his marriage annulled? Marriage is about the OTHER PERSON fulfilling your needs and your needs alone? So the OP shouldn't support or help his wife at all through this scary moment? I hope you're not married.

I've know of a couple of chicks that are either afraid of their ******'s or just to ridiculous to understand the concept of a sex drive... I would say divorce is a good option..

I'm still a virgin, and I am absolutely terrified to have sex. There's nothing wrong with waiting until you're married, and that's what I plan to do.

just wait for her to sleep then you'll get her

well if she is a virgin..tht would make sense.. but if not..u guyz shud probably talk about it..im sure u already did.. neway be patient with her

my first reaction was that she wasnt reacting to your nakedness, but perhaps she has some issues with this and its best to talk to her about it.

Dude, that must suck for you on your wedding night... BUT that is NOT a normal reaction, even for a virgin bride. Seriously. First, you should have TALKED about sex before your wedding night. I'm waiting for marriage, too, but I'm not going to treat sex like the elephant in the room/a forbidden subject and refuse to discuss it with my future husband; that can cause all kinds of problems. Second, I strongly suspect that she has been hiding past sexual abuse or exploitation: that's the only explanation I can think of for a frightened reaction to the thought of sex on your wedding night. You need to talk to her; and for pete's sake, don't act angry or upset at her. Unless she's a lesbian (unlikely) or asexual (even more unlikely), she will eventually seek intimacy with you. Virgins have sex drives, too.

I know a guy who was engaged to a girl for a year (they went out for two years). She said she was saving herself for marriage, until two weeks before their wedding. She had sex with his best friend. This waiting for marriage thing never seems to have a happy ending.

make her. she'll love it.