All the lowlifes who voted YDI are just pieces of trash who lost their virginity at the age of fourteen and now have twenty-five different STD's and three illegitimate children because they didn't wait until they were married.

I also doubt she's been abused. It just sounds like fear to me. And no, not everyone's willing to just have sex. And the transition from fiancee to wife would be really hard and scary especially in that aspect for her, for that night. You're a cruel person if you're saying 'annul!' just because she wasn't ready on the wedding night, and especially since it doesn't seem like he approached the situation particularly well.

This is so ******* relevant to my life that i just cant laugh at it. In fact, you made me tear up for the first time in years. Thanks a lot, OP, for giving just about the worst omen you possibly could.

@#243: Haha, no, not quite. (: Some of us think he deserved it because he didn't even BOTHER trying with foreplay. Or talk about WHY she didn't do anything afterward. @#244: Fear, or it was role play (Maybe she's into the whole BDSM scheme). We'll never know, since he never bothered to inquire.

you must have a hitlerdick or something.

She was scared, that's natural. I'm assuming it's her first time? Is it yours? Be nice. Work up to it. Think about her feelings, love and marriage has a lot to do with emotions, not just sex as everyone seems to believe.

Rape victim, perhaps?

OK...based on some of the comments.... Yeah, she may have some traumatic history behind her. She may have been raped or abused somehow. In which case, she needed to tell him about that before they got married. She shouldn't be hiding something that big from someone who's supposed to be her partner for life, her freakin' soulmate. If she has been traumatized, then this problem is her fault for not being open with him about it. For those who say it's the guy's fault for not being more romantic/seductive/whatever...c'mon, let's assume he's a virgin, or at least sexually inexperienced. In one breath he's praised for waiting until he's married, but in the next he's damned for not being an experienced seducer. If they're both virgins, then they're not going to have a single damned idea of what they're doing, and neither can truly be faulted for flaws in their approach. He was doing the best he could. Sex is part of the marriage contract, IMHO; it was something she SHOULD have been prepared for. To start crying and say, "Don't make me do this!" means she may not have been as ready for the realities of married life as she thought. She may be the victim of too much religious anti-sex attitudes, or too many romance novels, or too many soap operas, or whatever put too many unrealistic ideas in her head. A friend of mine did similar; he and his wife were virgins until they got married. And she also freaked out on their wedding night. He was patient and they didn't consummate their marriage until 3 months later. But she turned out to be totally sex-phobic (thanks to religious-nut parents) and she wouldn't let him touch her for weeks at a time. They tried counseling but she walked out when the counselor suggested she needed therapy to deal with her sex-phobic issues. They got divorced before their 3rd anniversary. Years later, he found a joyous, happy woman and they have a terrific sex life and are getting married this fall. The ex-wife is now a dried-up, withered stick of a woman, neurotic, nasty, hateful and judgemental. It was a terrible time for this guy and I fear the same happening for anyone else.

And that's the risk you take when you wait until marriage. YDI.

Omg, that sucks bro D: