awwe shes just nervous.

173 - asexual people aren't afraid of sex. Those people are sexually repressed and will have sex and be comfortable with it after therapy. They also have relationship issues. Asexual people just don't have sexual drive. Its normal and healthy. Sexual drive is on a spectrum and you will find just as many asexuals as you will find people with high sex drive. Asexuality has been documented in all species where studies have been carried out, as has homosexuality. Romantic drives and sex drives are entirely different, and no one who knows even a teensy bit about relationships would ever consider equating the lack of a sex drive with being afraid to have sex. Thats like equating the lack of a phD with being afraid to go to kindergarten

I don't see why everyone's acting like it's such a huge deal and she must be gay or have suffered sexual abuse, or that it means the marriage should end or whatever. She was probably just scared. Especially if she came from a family that made sex out to be a huge deal (I'm not saying everyone who waits for marriage is like that, before anyone jumps on me, but some are). And let's face it, for a female virgin sex can be pretty painful the first time so maybe she did have some reason to be worried. It is natural to be nervous the first time. So OP, yeah it sucks that you were disappointed on your wedding night (and I do have to say this is probably why it's better not to build sex up into such an enormous thing, because if you do, the disappointment seems worse if it doesn't work out) but hopefully, with your help, she'll relax pretty soon. Good luck.

you'll just have to be patient. she must've been scared. a lot of chicks are scared the first time because it hurts.

lols, try waiting a little longer.

I think you need to take things slowly....slower, I guess. Don't just undress completely before getting in bed, keep at least your underwear on. Have a LOT of foreplay. Make the actual sex come as the natural next step, not "Alright, we're having sex....NOW!" If you're really gentle and patient and loving with her, she'll eventually want to have sex with you. So don't worry!

LOL Don't take no for an answer....

maybe it wasn't you at all... what if she didn't want you to see her naked?

Enzytes...

first off u might have married a lesbain lol second off that sucks and finally you better have tore that shit up bro woo!